3 Ways Introverts Can Crush It at Parties, Bars and Clubs
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By the worlds #1 dating coach for Introverted Men - Nick Neeson.
Many introverted men shiver and shake at the thought of going to parties, bars and clubs.
On the other hand, some introverts like going to a cool social event or a club with good music, but they feel like they have no clue how to approach women in those venues.
Whatever type you are, parties and social events continue to exist, and sometimes you have to get out of your bubble. And I have some great news for you!
It’s MUCH easier than you think to attract women at social events – and odds are, you’re not making it happen right now because you have no system for doing it WITHOUT losing your precious willpower.
And it’s not your fault.
There simply is no quality dating advice out there focused on introverts.
Here’s some typical dating advice for social events that probably makes you cringe:
“Approach big groups and start entertaining them to get attention from women.”
“Act like you’re the mayor at the party and talk to everyone.”
“Go around the club and high-five everybody.”
What does all that advice has in common?
It’s geared toward extroverts.
As an introvert, you have limited amounts of social energy. If you would follow that advice, you would be dead tired after 30 minutes.
And in general, it’s bad advice anyway, even for extroverts.
The reason for this is simple.
When you walk around high-fiving everybody and dancing on the tables to get attention, you look like you’re low-status and trying too hard.
Yes, you might get some attention from women, but usually it will be low-quality women.
The loudest one in the room is the weakest one in the room.
Women know this.
Plus, as an introvert it’s much better to choose quality over quantity. You don’t want to talk to everybody.
You don’t want to be seen as an insecure clown running around the club.
Instead, you want to be that cool, chill, effortless guy that women flock to naturally.
You want to have that Effortless Celebrity Effect. Meaning, you want to have women at the club checking you out and being attracted to you without having to work like a dog.
And you want to only talk to a select few quality women of your choice.
“Nick, you’re full of BS, man. Stop the pep talk! That’s just not going to happen!”
Well, my friend, here’s a news flash for you.
It is very possible!
And I’m going to show you EXACTLY how to do it in this article.
Once you can face the REALITY of the situation and deal with it, you’ll start having success meeting women at parties, bars or clubs, like you never thought possible.
Here is my three-step introvert-friendly, results-guaranteed method to crush it at social events.
Fasten your seatbelts, because you are about to be blown away!
On the other hand, some introverts like going to a cool social event or a club with good music, but they feel like they have no clue how to approach women in those venues.
Whatever type you are, parties and social events continue to exist, and sometimes you have to get out of your bubble. And I have some great news for you!
It’s MUCH easier than you think to attract women at social events – and odds are, you’re not making it happen right now because you have no system for doing it WITHOUT losing your precious willpower.
And it’s not your fault.
There simply is no quality dating advice out there focused on introverts.
Many introverted men shiver and shake at the thought of going to parties, bars and clubs. Whatever type you are, parties and social events continue to exist, and sometimes you have to get out of your bubble.
Here’s some typical dating advice for social events that probably makes you cringe:
“Approach big groups and start entertaining them to get attention from women.”
“Act like you’re the mayor at the party and talk to everyone.”
“Go around the club and high-five everybody.”
What does all that advice has in common?
It’s geared toward extroverts.
As an introvert, you have limited amounts of social energy. If you would follow that advice, you would be dead tired after 30 minutes.
As an introvert, you have limited amounts of social energy. If you would follow typical dating advice, you would be dead tired after 30 minutes.
And in general, it’s bad advice anyway, even for extroverts.
The reason for this is simple.
When you walk around high-fiving everybody and dancing on the tables to get attention, you look like you’re low-status and trying too hard.
Yes, you might get some attention from women, but usually it will be low-quality women.
The loudest one in the room is the weakest one in the room.
Women know this.
Plus, as an introvert it’s much better to choose quality over quantity. You don’t want to talk to everybody.
You don’t want to be seen as an insecure clown running around the club.
Instead, you want to be that cool, chill, effortless guy that women flock to naturally.
You want to have that Effortless Celebrity Effect.
You want to have that Effortless Celebrity Effect. Meaning, you want to have women at the club checking you out and being attracted to you without having to work like a dog.
And you want to only talk to a select few quality women of your choice.
“Nick, you’re full of BS, man. Stop the pep talk! That’s just not going to happen!”
Well, my friend, here’s a news flash for you.
It is very possible!
And I’m going to show you EXACTLY how to do it in this article.
Once you can face the REALITY of the situation and deal with it, you’ll start having success meeting women at parties, bars or clubs, like you never thought possible.
Here is my three-step introvert-friendly, results-guaranteed method to crush it at social events.
Fasten your seatbelts, because you are about to be blown away!
Phase 1: Warm Up the Venue Using an Effortless, High-Status Approach.
This phase is all about warming the venue up before you even approach any woman. You do this by using confident, high-status body language, having fun with your friends, and soliciting conversation invitations from a distance.
All of this is done in a very high-status, low-effort way. There are three steps in phase 1.
1. Enter the Venue With a Strong, Confident Walk.
Attraction is created mostly through body language. Most men don’t realize that and they learn games, routines and gimmicks to attract women.
But what they fail to understand is that all those games and routines are worthless without the right body language. And with the right body language, you don’t need those tricks. Ironic, isn’t it?
As an introvert, that’s fantastic news, because you want to be able to attract women without having to run around talking to everybody that comes within five feet of you.
So, how do you walk into a club with confidence?
Simple: imagine that you own the place. Imagine that it’s your club or party. Now, I don’t mean for you to go talk to everyone like an extroverted club owner would do.
But I do want you to imagine it’s your club. You are the owner. That’s all.
This will show in your body language. The objective is that you walk confidently and relaxed. People might even come up to you and ask you if you are the manager.
You also need to avoid doing what most men do, which is to act too cool for school by studiously avoiding to look at women.
Instead, you should be scoping women out as quickly as you can once you enter the venue.
Don’t be afraid to look at women and check them out.
And when I say check them out, I mean… CHECK ’EM OUT! Don’t be ashamed of your sexuality! Show them you’re scoping them out. You can even look them up and down with an insulant look on your face.
Believe it or not, women love this. They will start to give you signs of attraction. But the trick is to be unapologetic about it and to feel NO shame!
Imagine that you own the place. Imagine that it’s your club or party.. This will show in your body language. This creates tons of attraction in women. People might even come up to you and ask you if you are the manager.
If you feel shame, it doesn’t work.
The reason it works is simple. Women are not stupid. They know that guys are checking them out. By you being completely raw and unapologetic about it, you actually build trust with them.
“What the heck are you talking about, Nick? I’m confused.”
Let me explain. It’s simple.
It shows you’re honest. And honesty builds trust.
Now, don’t confuse this with whistling at them or shouting weak lines like “Hey, sexy…hey, baby, come here”. That’s boyish, immature and stupid.
I’m talking about using your eyes and really checking them out without apologizing for it.
I’m talking about showing some raw, unfiltered authenticity in your body language.
When you do this, women will start giving you signs of attraction. They’ll start looking at you. They’ll talk to their girlfriends about you. They might even point at you to show their friends that sexy guy that’s so high-status and sexually confident.
Other women will start to notice this, and they will also become attracted to you because of the pre-selection effect.
When you see that women are giving you signs of attraction, make a mental note of them.
You’ll know that later on you can go talk to them and you’ll get a warm welcome. They’ll act like warm bases for you in the venue.
So far, you haven’t done anything but walk like you owned the place and scope the girls out. It’s very stealthy and under the radar, but deadly effective.
Remember, high-status people don’t run around the club high-fiving everyone.
2. Chill and Have Fun with Your Friends.
Once you’re at the place where you’re going to stay and order your drinks, just chill and have fun with your friends.
Most men will make the mistake of standing next to each other with one hand in their pocket and the other hand holding their glass in front of their chest, while staring into the crowd like a predator.
But not you. You’ll be genuinely having fun with your small group of close friends.
Instead of standing there like statues, just talk with your friends and chill together. Focus on having a good time with them.
Remember to keep your high-status body language on while doing this.
When you do this, you’ll stand out from 99% of all the other men in the club.
Women will notice that you’re having fun with your friends, and they will start to look at you and check you out.
3. Solicit Conversation Invitations From A Distance.
While chilling with your friends, you can also solicit some attraction signals from a distance from time to time.
When you catch a woman’s eyes or her attention, you can just raise your glass or give her a nod or a head tilt. Just do whatever comes naturally to you in that moment. The purpose is to get a sign of positive acknowledgement of them.
That sign could be her raising her glass back, smiling at you, nodding back, etc. When you get such a sign from a woman, remember her. She becomes a warm base that you can go to later as the night progresses.
When you approach her later, you’ll get a warm welcome. That’s because you’ve already started a conversation from a distance. In other words, you were already in a conversation through your body language.
It would be very unsocial if a person acted rudely toward another person when they already had a conversation like this from a distance. And women are socially very savvy, so you can be virtually guaranteed of a warm welcome.
So far, you haven’t approached any women yet. You’ve only chilled with a few of your good friends.
Yet, you generated more attraction than 99% of all the other men in the club, all in a very introvert-friendly way.
Phase 2: Create an Effortless Celebrity Effect.
By now, you’ve warmed up the venue. You’re having fun with your friends, and you’ve got some women that are open for you to approach them.
You’ve been in the club about 15 to 20 minutes at this point.
Now it’s time to dial it up a few notches and create the EFFORTLESS Celebrity Effect.
Here are the steps to follow.
Once you’ve warmed the venue from your home base with your friends, you can make some rounds around the club.
The purpose is to generate more attraction signals like the ones we talked about in phase one, and create some extra warm bases.
You do this by walking around the venue, again, like you own the place. When you walk, you show your sexuality. You walk like a tiger on the prowl, scoping women out and soliciting attraction signals like in phase 1.
Every time a woman gives you an attraction signal, or acknowledges your nonverbal communication, you have made a new warm base. You can go and talk to her later in the evening.
The idea is to do four or five laps over the course of the night.
With each round, you’ll be generating more attraction signals and more warm bases.
On every lap, you pick one or two women that you like and that gave you attraction signals.
Walk like a tiger on the prowl. Scope women out and solicit attraction signals.
It’s about quality. Not quantity.
Just have a short conversation with them, get their number, and leave. Or you can have a short conversation and leave without the number. You can still come back to them later in the night.
After each round, you go back to your home base with your friends.
This allows you to replenish your energy by chilling with your close friends. Use this time to organize your thoughts based on the information you have gained from your previous laps. Think about how to use that information in your next round.
Throughout the night, women will see that other women are giving you attraction signals. They’ll see you talking to girls and getting warm welcomes. This creates social proof and pre-selection.
You’ll find that with each lap you make, more women become attracted to you. Women that weren’t attracted to you on the first round will become attracted to you on the second or third round.
After a few laps, you will have created the celebrity effect. Almost all the women in the club will be attracted to you.
When you are at one of your warm bases or back with your friends, you can keep playing the attraction signals from a distance with those women that are checking you out.
The celebrity effect also gets reinforced because your state shoots up through all the positive acknowledgments you get from the women.
This positive state change makes you more confident, sexual and attractive, which in turn triggers even more attraction signals from women.
At a certain point, you will literally feel like a celebrity amongst a bunch of normal people.
Phase 3: Pick the Woman You Like and Get Her Number.
After you’ve done three to five laps, you will have created the Effortless Celebrity Effect. You are now in a position to choose the woman you like the most. Go talk to her and get her number.
You could even go for a one-night stand if that’s an experience you would like to have in your life. I suggest you pick multiple women that you are really into and get their numbers.
That way, you’ll have multiple numbers that you can turn into dates later.
Don’t worry if other women see you doing this. It will make them more attracted to you. No kidding!
But what do you do with those numbers? How do you get them out on a date?
Well, you’ll need to text them!
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Conclusion
Social events like parties, bars and clubs don’t have to be a daunting experience for introverts.If you have the right strategy, they can even be fun.
With the three steps I just gave you, you’ll be able to crush it at parties, all while preserving your social energy.
Whether you like to go to parties or not, there will times in your life when you’ll have to go to them.
When that happens, you might as well make the best of it and set it up in such a way that you can have your pick of women while there.
By using the tips from this article, you’ll be able to get the most beautiful women in the venue.
Instead of going home empty-handed, you’ll go home with the phone numbers of some delicious arm candy.
But, of course, getting all the digits in the world won’t do you any good if you don’t know how to convert them into dates.
To do that, you’ll need a failure-proof texting method.
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