As you know, there are things you can do in conversations with women that absolutely KILL the attraction she’s feeling for you. Just like the wrong body language can kill attraction, the wrong conversations can do the exact same thing.


Can you guess what the wrong kind of conversation is?


If you guessed a BORING one, then you’re absolutely right.


But what makes a conversation boring?


Ever thought about that?


Some men think it’s the topics you talk about.


Others think it’s a lack of humor.


While certain topics and humor can certainly add to the energy level of a conversation, the real answer is this:

A boring conversation is a conversation that keeps a woman in AUTO-RESPONSE mode.

In other words, it’s standard chit-chat that keeps both of you in a state of POLITE DETACHMENT.


You know what I mean.


Most men will ask the same boring questions that will trigger automatic responses of polite detachment.


Here’s an example.


Him: “So, what do you do for a living?”


Her: “I work in the library.”


Him: “How long have you been working there?”


Her: “Two years.”


Him: “Oh, cool. Do you like it?”


Her: “Yes, sure”.


Him: “Cool. Um…So how did you get into it?”


Her: Tells the same auto-response story that she’s told a gazillion times before to all the other people that asked her that same question.


As you can see, this conversation is really lame because there is no element of novelty in it.


The questions he asks trigger her to give standard answers and stay in polite detachment mode.


Translation: she experienced yet another boring conversation with yet another boring average Joe. And she’ll blame him for it.


But you won’t be making that mistake.


After you read this article, you’ll know how to have exciting and impactful conversations that women get addicted to.


Here are four easy ways to make your conversations stand out like a black stallion in a prairie full of white dwarf donkeys.

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1. Ask Interesting Questions.

Interesting questions are questions that force women out of their auto-response mode.


They are questions that create a subtle shift in her perception about you.


When you ask just a few of these questions, she’ll see you in a different way than your competitors.


Interesting questions usually include some level of detail that boring questions don’t.


Let’s look at some examples.


Let’s say she tells you she’s a nurse.


Here’s what you could ask her to get her out of auto-response mode.


• What do you need to excel at what you do?


• Does your job put a smile on your face every day?


• Have you wanted to do that since you were a little girl?


Can you see how these questions are different? They are more detailed and they have a novelty aspect to them. They are out of the ordinary.


Because she’s not used to getting these questions, you won’t trigger any auto-responses.


Instead, you’ll make her THINK. Also, just by asking these simple questions, you’ll immediately shift her perspective about YOU.


She’ll instantly see you as different.


Now, of course, don’t ask these three questions in a row, because that would be really weird.


Instead, weave them into your conversation.


For example:


Her: “I’m a nurse.”


You: “Nice. So tell me, have you wanted to be a nurse ever since you were a little girl?”


Her: “Yes, believe it or not, I actually did.”


You: “I can already see you running around the house dropping heavy stuff on your parents’ toes just so you could take care of their injuries.” (said teasingly and with a cheeky smile)


Her: “Nooooo… I would never do that. I’m too sweet for that…”


You: “So tell me, I’m wondering, what does it take to be a really good nurse?”


Her: “Well, that’s a good question. I never thought about that, actually… I think you need to be… etc.


Can you see how the conversation got more interesting just by using one or two interesting questions?


Here’s another example. Let’s say you are on a date and she tells you she’s from Italy. Here’s what most men will ask:


• What part of Italy are you from?


• Where in city XYZ do you live?


• Is it warm there?


Can you see again how boring and auto-response-evoking they are?


Here’s a better question to ask: “I’ve actually never been to Tuscany. Tell me two interesting things about Tuscany that would make me want to go visit it?”


Can you see the difference again?


Also, there’s an added advantage to this question. By answering it, she’ll give you multiple topics you can talk more about.


She might say that you need to go to Tuscany because of its Renaissance art and for the architecture.


And voila! You now have two more subjects you can talk about. The Renaissance and architecture.


If you happen to know some interesting facts about those topics, now would be a moment to say them.


That way you show her that you are educated and have knowledge, which will trigger more attraction in her.


Yes, you read that right. Knowledge and wisdom are attraction triggers.


Here’s a little exercise for you to help you prepare for your next conversations.


Step 1: Make a list of the kind of questions that you usually ask during conversations. List them all together. It doesn’t matter if they’re interesting or boring. Just list them all on the same paper.


Step 2: Circle the interesting questions and copy them on another piece of paper called “Interesting Questions”.


Step 3: Turn the boring questions into interesting questions and also add them to the “Interesting Questions” list.


After you’ve done this exercise, you’ll have a list of interesting questions to ask.


You’ll also become aware of the boring questions that you usually ask so you can avoid them.

2. Use Strong Opinions.

Every introverted man has opinions about things.


The problem is that most introverts are so scared about voicing them in the presence of a woman because they are afraid it might lose them the girl.


This is such a big misconception.


I’ve been coaching introverted men for more than 20 years now. As part of that, I’ve been interviewing many women on this topic.


And here’s what all of them said to me.


No girl ever said, “I didn’t sleep with him because we didn’t agree or we argued about something”.


None. Zero. Nada.


But what they did say was: “I didn’t sleep with him because he was boring.”


Here’s the point. Women love men with strong opinions.


Strong opinions create strong connections.


So instead of keeping your opinion to yourself because you fear losing her, make sure you voice your opinion strongly. It will make your conversations with women more interesting and they’ll love you for it.


Does this mean you need to become that obnoxious guy who gives his opinion about everything all the time?


Of course not. That would be an exaggeration, and women recognize the overcompensating behavior. They’ll label you as insecure.


But now and then in the conversation there will be topics that you have a strong opinion about. When those topics occur, show your opinion STRONGLY.

3. Use Anecdotes and Stories.

Using anecdotes and stories are very powerful ways to make conversations interesting.


Even as children, we love stories. In fact, stories are imbedded in our brain structure.


We’ve been using stories ever since we developed the ability to speak. And we used them to pass on knowledge from generation to generation.


Just the fact that you know how to present an anecdote or tell a story shows you have higher status. And status is a powerful attraction trigger.


Now, don’t worry—you don’t need to become some marvelous story-teller.


You just need to know the basic structure of how to tell a story.


Once you know that, you can tell your anecdotes in that format.


There are eight classic story-telling models going from the Monomyth (The Hero’s Journey) all the way to the Petal Structure.


But for our purposes here, you just need the simplest three-step structure:

a) A character with a purpose.

A good story always has a character in it, and that character has a purpose or a goal.


For example, if you tell a story about your first kiss, the character would be YOU and your purpose would be to get the first kiss.


If you want to make it more compelling, you can also talk about the motivation behind the first kiss.


Maybe you wanted that first kiss because the girl dreamed about a first kiss like in a movie and you always wanted to be a movie star. See how this instantly makes the story more interesting?

b) An obstacle between the character and his purpose.

Once the character and his purpose are clear and he’s on his quest to fulfill his purpose, you need to think about the obstacles that might get in his way.


In the case of your first kiss, you might want to think more in detail about the obstacles between you and getting your first kiss.


Maybe she had bad breath? Or maybe you popped a boner when you wanted to kiss her? 😊


You see how this instantly makes the story more dramatic?

c) The resolution.

Once your audience is captivated by the character, his purpose, and the drama of the obstacle between him and his goal, you need to relieve the tension with the resolution.


There are two questions you want to answer in the resolution.


First, did the character get what he wanted?


Second, regardless if he got what he wanted, how did it change him?


And the second is more important than the first. In other words, how the quest changed the character is more important than if he succeeded or failed in his quest.


In fact, describing a CHANGE is the REASON people tell a story.


Here are two ways to end a story by describing a change:


• “That’s why I never…”


• “That’s why I always…”


In the case of your first kiss story, you could end the story (regardless if you succeeded in getting the first kiss or not) by saying “that’s why I decided to not become an actor after all!”


Do you see how this gives the story a punchy, funny finish?


Remember, your goal was to get your first kiss because that girl dreamed about a first kiss like in a movie and you always wanted to become a movie star.


Then when you wanted to finally kiss her, you got an embarrassing boner that screwed it all up. That’s when you decided never to become a movie star.


See how, in this case, the resolution referred back to a change in what you initially wanted?


Initially, you wanted to become a movie star, but your first kiss experience changed you.


Now, of course this is a very condensed explanation about storytelling, but for now it should be enough to help you on your way.


So here’s an implementation assignment to help you prepare some stories.


Step 1: Look for areas in your life where you changed something. You can do this by finishing the following statements:


• “That was the moment I realized…”


• “I’ll never do that again because…”


Step 2: Structure the journey that led you to that change in the story-telling format.


Ask yourself:


• What was my purpose?


• What was my motivation behind it?


• What obstacles, conflicts, or drama were standing in the way of my goal?


• Did I reach my goal?


• How did it change me?


Everybody has made changes in his life. By talking about those changes in the story-telling structure, you actually make your conversations interesting. So why not use it?


By the way, it’s not lying. You are talking about stuff that actually happened to you.


The only thing you do is you tell it in a compelling way instead of a boring way.


There’s nothing wrong with that.


Also, don’t confuse this with telling DHV stories. DHV (delivering high value) stories are tools that pick-up artists use to tell lies about themselves to make them look cool.


When I’m talking about storytelling, I’m talking about sharing things that really happened to you, and doing it in a format that makes the conversation more interesting.

4. Use Current Gossip.

As an intelligent introverted man, you might not like this one.


You might not want to talk about Kim Kardashian’s big ass.


You probably prefer reading a good book or understanding more intellectual things than Kim’s big butt.


And I totally get it. I’m the same way.


But bear with me for a moment so I can put things in perspective.


Sometimes in a conversation, there is a lull with a very awkward silence.


In that moment, you need to make a choice.


Do you let the conversation die and risk her associating these awkward feelings with you, or do you use a wildcard that is guaranteed to get you out of this situation?


I’d suggest you use the wildcard.


That wildcard is CURRENT gossip.


Current gossip is something almost all women love.


Don’t make the mistake of thinking that only dumb women love gossip.


That’s false.


Even very intelligent women know about the latest things happening to celebrities like who’s sleeping with who, etc.


In fact, very successful and intelligent women still find the time to be in the know about these things.


So don’t make the mistake of thinking, “If she’s into that, she must be a dumb bimbo.”


She’s not.


So now that I’ve taken away all of the reasons that would prevent you from using this powerful tactic, let’s see how it works.


As I said, the best time to use it is at moments where you feel the conversation is really slipping away in an awkward silence.


By the way, you can use this on dates with women or you can also use it at dinner with a group of friends to inject energy in the conversation.


The way you do it is simple.


You just ask her OPINION on some CURRENT gossip.


When you do, watch what happens. People usually get all pumped up and full of energy and life when they start talking about current gossip.


And, by the way, it doesn’t have to be about Kim’s butt.


It can be about anything.


For example, if “America’s Got Talent” is on, you might ask her who her favorite is.


So here’s your implementation assignment for this.


Set away JUST FIVE MINUTES per day to stay up to date with the latest gossip.


That’s all. Just five minutes per day.


You can use Buzzfeed or Yahoo for this.

Conclusion.

Most men have boring conversations with women. They talk and behave in ways that trigger women’s auto-responses, creating an atmosphere of polite detachment in the process.


The result: she’ll blame the man for the boring conversation. To her, he’ll be just another loser that doesn’t get it. That’s the world your competition lives in.


For you, it will be different. By using the four tips from this article, you’ll be able to give women interesting, exciting and even addicting conversations. They will be thinking about you long after you’re gone.


But to be able to use these tactics, you’ll need to be able to hold a conversation for a LONGER time.


I mean, you won’t be able to use these gems if you can’t keep the conversation going.


So how do you make sure you keep the conversation going forever and never run out of things to say?


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