How To Attract A Woman Instantly: 5 Secrets
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By the worlds #1 dating coach for Introverted Men - Nick Neeson.
If you want to discover how to prepare for a date that will sweep beautiful babes off their feet….
You’ll ADORE this article.
Cause…
In a few seconds…
You’ll discover 3 road-tested tips to immortalize your dates!
And as you can imagine from the title….
When I talk about immortalizing your dates…
I’m not talking about the basic stuff most blogs cover.
You know…
Obvious things like clean yourself, clean your crib, wash your car…
Yadayadayada.
I’m assuming you already have that basic knowledge.
If not…
You can find plenty of articles that talk about that.
Instead…
I want to focus on the needle movers.
The things that will quantum-leap the quality of your dates.
So that women crave seeing you for the next round.
Cause that’s what a badass date is meant to do!
Okay…
Let’s get rolling!
Secret 1 – How To Prepare For A Date By Using Brad Pitt’s Secret (Before He Discovered This His Dates Were Awful)
How To Prepare For A Date By Using Brad Pitt’s Secret (Before He Discovered This His Dates Were Awful)
I once saw a video with Bratt Pit in which he said his dating life was horrible when he arrived in Hollywood.
That was before he was a well-known actor!
In fact…
It was worse than having awful dates…
Cause…
He couldn’t even get a date in the first place.
Yes…
Brad Pitt… the most beautiful man in the world…
Couldn’t even get a date!
And that was in his early twenties… when he was hotter than ever!
So…
After I saw that interview... I did some research to find out how that was possible.
I started reading about him and watching old interviews…
And I remember watching his first one (it’s still on Youtube).
He was nervous.
Broke eye contact a lot… in a submissive way.
Had jerky moves.
Didn’t seem like he knew what he wanted in life.
And that’s when I realized… he had low-status behaviors!
And as you may or may not know…
Status… is the number one trigger of attraction.
You see…
Scientists have discovered…
That women have always been attracted to higher status men (for evolutionary/survival reasons).
It’s literally…
The number one thing that women are attracted to in a man.
So…
When you show the opposite… aka low status… it repels them!
Just look at yourself.
As a man… you’re probably attracted to beautiful, slender women with nice skin and shiny hair.
Well…
When you see the opposite of that – a whale with broken hair and ugly skin – it’s going to repulse you.
Cause it’s the opposite of what attracts you!
Women are the same.
The difference is that… women are attracted to status (and not so much by a man’s looks).
And Brad Pit is the ultimate proof of that.
Without status… even “he” couldn’t get a date!
So how do you use that to prepare for a date?
Well…
One of the easiest things you can do to instantly appear higher status….
Is to dress higher status than your environment.
The trick, tho…
Is to dress only “one” step higher than your environment.
So…
If everyone is in jeans… you go in jeans and a blazer.
If everyone is in jeans and a blazer… you go in a full suit (but without a tie)
If everyone is in a suit without a tie… you go in a suit with a tie.
See what I mean?
Here’s how to plan for it…
Simply check out the venue that you take your date to in advance.
Look at the clientele.
How do they dress?
Then dress one step above them.
You’ll look like the highest-status person in the room.
And your date will feel very attracted to you.
But don’t overdo it.
I mean…
Don't take her on a mini-golf date wearing a three-piece suit…
The trick is “ONE” step above the other people – not five!
I think you get the point, right?
Okay…
Let’s have a look at the next preparation tip…Secret 2 – How To Prepare For A Date By Using “The Small Bang Theory”
How To Prepare For A Date By Using “The Small Bang Theory”
My parents always told me to make an excellent first impression on people.
They said first impressions count.
Now…
I’m not sharing anything new here.
I mean… you probably heard that before, right?
But…
It wasn’t till later…
When I studied the science of persuasion…
That I discovered the scientific reasons behind this.
You see…
A long time ago…
I read the book “Influence”… by Robert Cialdini.
Now… Robert is considered the grandfather of influence.
His research into what influences peoples is groundbreaking!
All the other researchers stand on his shoulders.
One of the many things he discovered…
Is a psychological principle called “Commitment and Consistency."
Basically…
It means… people want to stay consistent with previous decisions and impressions they made.
In his book…
He gave an example of billboard salespeople.
When billboard salespeople try to sell you a billboard for your house…
They don’t try and sell you the biggest one right away.
No... no... no!
They first sell you the smallest one.
In fact…
The first billboard they sell you is usually sooo small…
You almost can't see it on the walls of your house.
And people think…
“Well… it’s so tiny I can hardly see it... and I get money for it… why not?”
Then…
Three months later…
The billboard salesperson comes back and upsells you to a more prominent billboard.
The take rate on that is much higher than if they tried to sell the bigger billboard right off the bat.
And it’s because of the law of consistency.
You see…
When people say yes to a tiny billboard… they agreed to the “idea” of having a billboard.
And later… they’ll want to be consistent with their previous decision.
My point?
It’s the same when you go on a date.
You want to start the date by doing something small that creates attraction right of the bat.
Cause if you spike her attraction for you right at the start of your date…
No matter how small it is…
You’ll have a much bigger chance she’ll like the rest of your date too.
Even if you make some mistakes later.
Cause her first impression of the date was good.
And she’ll forgive you your mistakes because of the law of consistency.
Just like people who buy a tiny billboard… will forgive the inconvenience of a giant one at a later stage.
Get it?
Okay.
So… here’s how I applied this to my dates.
I call it the small bang opener.
But don’t underestimate its power…
Cause small hinges swing big doors!
Basically…
From the very first second of my date…
I’ll do a tiny thing that creates a bang of attraction in her.
Here’s what I do.
Upon greeting her…
I take her two hands and say…
“Wow… did you make yourself pretty like that just for me? Aww… you shouldn’t have!”
And here’s why that works.
Let me ask you a question.
What do women do “before” they go on a date?
Well…
They put a lot of effort into making themselves look beautiful.
So…
When you call it out…
She'll realize… that… yes… indeed…
She “did” put in all that time and effort for YOU!
And from that moment on... the consistency principle kicks in.
And she'll filter the rest of the date through that lens!
So…
Before you go on your next date…
Prepare this line.
Rehearse it in your mind.
And then… when you meet her… just use it.
I’ve always gotten GREAT reactions and dates when I used it…
So do our clients.
And you… most likely… will too!
Secret 3 – How To Prepare For A Date By Taking Spankings
How To Prepare For A Date By Taking Spankings
I remember when I was a kid and did something wrong… I knew I might get a spanking!
So…
Of course…
My instinct was to avoid that.
And I remember I’d prepare in my head…
If my parents say this… I’ll say that.
And if they say that… I’ll say this.
Basically…
I prepared for all the ways the conversation could go…
So I could maximize my chances of not getting punished.
And…
Without realizing it…
This taught me a great lesson that I later used to prepare my dates.
I still remember going on my first date ever.
I wanted to avoid awkward silences.
So…
I treated the awkward silences as if they were a spanking.
Which means…
I prepared different topics to talk about.
I imagined different ways these topics could flow…
And came up with some cool things to say for each of them.
It helped a lot.
Not only did it make me more confident on my dates.
But also…
Whenever the conversation started to fizzle out…
I simply injected one of these topics… together with all the ways I could branch it out.
And I never ran out of things to say!
This is something that… to this very day… I still teach to my clients.
Cause it works like gangbusters.
So…
Before going on a date…
Think through the different topics you want to talk about.
Plus… prepare a few “if/then flows” per topic… so you can branch them out in many directions.
For example…
If you talk about what she does for a living…
You could ask her... "Does your job put a smile on your face every day?"
If she says yes…
You can then validate her by saying you like people that like their job and that it’s a rare thing these days.
Then you can ask her if she always wanted to do that job since she was a little girl.
Now… if she said no to your first question…
You could challenge her by asking her why she does a job she doesn’t like.
See how you can prepare topics and different ways to branch them out?
When you do it correctly…
You can take 1 topic… and build 5… 10… sometimes even 15 branches for it.
Which means that 1 topic can carry a conversation for 10 to 30 minutes.
And if you prepare 5 to 10 topics this way… you have enough for 1 to 3 hours of conversation…
Which is more than enough for a whole date!Secret 4 – How To Prepare For A Date By Knowing How To Boil Hot Babes Alive Without Using Brute Force
How To Prepare For A Date By Knowing How To Boil Hot Babes Alive Without Using Brute Force
Bear with me… it’s not what you think
A long time ago…
I was very into “change management."
Which is all about getting people to accept new things and minimizing resistance to change.
And one of the best analogies I ever heard about how to do that…
Was about boiling frogs “without forcing” them into the boiling water.
Yes…
Boiling them with their consent!
I don’t remember if someone told me how it works or if I read it…
But…
It goes like this.
If you fill a pan with boiling water and put a frog in it… it will jump out of the pan cause it burns its legs.
But…
If you put a frog in a pan of cold water and slowly increase the temperature…
Degree by degree…
The frog won't feel the temperature change…
And will stay in the pan and boil alive!
Why am I telling you this?
What’s the link with preparing for a date?
Am I some nutjob that fantasizes about boiling women alive?
Of course not!
Here’s why I told you that story.
You see…
You go on a date for a reason.
The reason is… that you like the girl.
And…
Your goal is most likely to kiss her at some point during your date.
In other words…
Your objective is to escalate the relationship… from a friendly acquaintance… to a physically intimate relationship.
But…
Most guys go about this completely wrong.
They’ll go on a date with a woman.
Not touch her for the whole date.
And then… at the end…
They’ll work up their courage… and “suddenly” go in for the kiss.
That’s the equivalent of dropping a frog in a pan of boiling water… it will jump out of it.
Same for your date… she’ll feel very uncomfortable with that sudden BIG move!
And the risk of getting her cheek instead of her lips… increases massively.
Instead…
What you want to do… is gradually get her used to you touching her.
And increasing your touch… incrementally!
So that she doesn’t feel the changes.
And so that… when you go in for the kiss… it will be a natural… normal… thing to do.
But…
To do that… you need to prepare yourself!
You need to think through… a natural touching sequence… that will automatically lead to the kiss!
And without it being awkward.
Don’t wait till you’re on your date for this.
Have a plan and practice it in advance by imagining how and when you will touch her.
And how you’ll… gradually… escalate to a kiss.
Here’s something to get you started.
There are three types of touches.
Social touch… seductive touch… and sexual touch.
Social touch…
Is when you touch her in socially acceptable places.
For example… when you make a point about something… you might touch her hand… or her lower arm.
Seductive touch…
Is when you touch women in places where a lover would touch her.
For example… you might at some point touch her hair… or put your hand on her hips.
Sexual touch…
Is when you touch her in sexual places… like touching her breasts.
The trick is to start with social touches and when she’s comfortable with them…
Only then use more seductive touches… until you kiss her.
And once you’ve kissed her... you can then slowly start using more sexual touches.
Pretty straightforward, right?
Okay…
Let’s wrap this up with…
Conclusion On How To Prepare For A Date
Conclusion On How To Prepare For A Date
Preparing for a date is crucial.
Because if you don’t… you’ll make many mistakes.
Plus…
You’ll be less confident.
And confidence… in and of itself… will make your date go much better.
Also…
When you prepare… you’ll be smoother in getting what you want.
And the preparation tips from this article will help a lot with that!
Btw…
Don’t forget to download the PDF version of this article…
So you can use it when you prepare for your dates.
How do you prepare for a date? Share your opinion in the comments section below!