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How To Be A Ladies Man: 5 Ways For Introverts

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By the worlds #1 dating coach for Introverted Men - Nick Neeson.


 
If you want to discover how to be a ladies' man – especially if you’re more of an introvert – this article will show you how.


The tactics you’ll discover are based on scientific research…


35+ years of experience dating women…


25+ years of experience coaching introverts on their dating life…


And having impacted the lives of hundreds of thousands of introverted men all over the planet.


Let’s dive right in.
 

Secret 1 – How To Be A Ladies Man By Triggering The Triad Of Intimacy

How To Be A Ladies Man By Triggering The Triad Of Intimacy

How To Be A Ladies Man By Triggering The Triad Of Intimacy


On my way home today…


I noticed some kids playing at school.


Two little girls were making sandcastles.


I think they were about six years old.


And they were having a lot of fun.


You know… as kids do.


But then…


One little girl threw a bucket of sand on the other.


And instantly, the one that got the sand on her…


Said…


“Ohhh! You’ll pay for that!”


And she took a bucket of sand and threw it right back at the other little girl.


And it all happened in a second.


Now…


What’s interesting about this is that this was “instinctive” behavior.


It’s as if some trigger inside her was pulled…


That made her react instantly and automatically.


So why am I telling you that?


Well…


Cause it’s the same with women and dating.


If you want to become a ladies’ man…


You need to learn to trigger women…


So they have an instinctive reaction towards you.


Now…


Of course…


We’re not talking about making them throw sand on you.


I'm talking about grown-up instinctive reactions.


In other words…


You want to be able to trigger women to sleep with you.


Cause that’s what ladies’ men are good at.


They know how to trigger three specific emotions in women.


I call them the Triad Of Intimacy.


Because…


When you create these three emotions…


Which are… attraction… connection… arousal…


Women will instantly become intimate with you.


So…


Let's talk about each of them briefly.


Attraction is pretty obvious, right?


I mean…


If a woman doesn’t feel attraction for you… she won’t sleep with you.


I think we can all agree on that.


So…


No need to elaborate.


The second emotion you want to trigger is the feeling of "connection."


You want women to feel a deep connection with you.


Here’s why.


Most women are afraid of getting pumped and dumped.


And they know… instinctively…


If they have a deep connection with a guy…


The likelihood of him sticking around…


After they had sex…


Increases dramatically!


The third emotion you want to trigger is the emotion of arousal.


Cause…


No matter how attracted a woman is to you…


And no matter how deep she feels a bond with you…


If she’s not hot and bothered…


Nothing sexual will happen!


So…


You need to learn and trigger ALL THREE emotions.


That’s why I call them the Triad Of Intimacy.


If you only trigger a connection, you'll get friend-zoned.


If you only trigger attraction, you’ll be seen as a superficial guy.


And if you only arouse her, you'll be seen as a sleazy guy.


It’s like being a triathlon guy.


You need to run, swim and bike!


If you only run, you’re a runner.


If you only swim, you’re a swimmer.


If you only bike, you’re a cyclist.


But if you swim, run and bike you’re a triathlon man!


Okay…


Let's check out the next strategy.
 

Secret 2 – How To Be A Ladies Man By Triggering The Love “Chemical”

How To Be A Ladies Man By Triggering The Love “Chemical”

How To Be A Ladies Man By Triggering The Love “Chemical”


Did you know that love isn’t a feeling?


Nope… it isn’t!


Happiness is a feeling.


Sadness too.


But love is not.


Love is a chemical in our brain, called Oxytocin.


In other words…


When our brain releases Oxytocin… we feel love.


Well…


It just so happens…


Ladies’ men are not only good at triggering Oxytocin in women!


So how do you do it?


Well…


Luckily…


Science has discovered there are four things that trigger Oxytocin.


Conversation.


Laugher.


Touch.


And Sex.


What that means is…


If you’re a good conversationalist, you’ll trigger Oxytocin in women.


If you make ‘em laugh, you trigger Oxytocin.


If you touch ‘em, you trigger Oxytocin.


And when you have sex, yep, you guessed it…


You trigger Oxytocin!


And here’s the REALLY good news!


All these are learnable skills.


You can learn to be a great conversationalist.


You can learn to be fun, even if you’re not funny.


You can learn how to touch women (there's a specific touch sequence for this).


And of course, you can learn to be great at sex!


Btw…


If you want me to teach you all the ways to trigger Oxytocin in women…


Shoot me a message at nickneeson@introvertedbadass.com...


Put “Oxytocin Coaching” in the subject line…


Tell me a bit more about your situation and what you want to accomplish…


And I’ll get you all the details.


Okay…


Let’s look at the next one…
 

Secret 3 – How To Be A Ladies Man By Being A Master Of Logistics

How To Be A Ladies Man By Being A Master Of Logistics

How To Be A Ladies Man By Being A Master Of Logistics


I remember when I studied economy.


I learned…


One of the critical things every economy needs…


Is logistics!


Without logistics, there is no economy.


Cause without logistics, you can't do business.


Think about it.


What does it mean to do business?


Simple.


Two persons…


Two companies…


Or a person and a company…


Make a deal.


“You give me this product, and I'll give you x amount of money.”


But if there’s no way to get the product to the buyer…


There is no point in making a deal.


People can desire to do business as much as they want…


It won’t happen without logistics.


It’s the same with women and dating.


You can trigger The Triad Of Intimacy all day long…


You can trigger Oxytocin all day long…


You can make her as hot and bothered all day long…


If you don’t have a place where both of you can have privacy…


Nothing will happen!


Logistics…


IT’S SO IMPORTANT!


And most guys don’t even understand this.


You can be the best womanizer in the world…


If you didn’t plan your logistics…


It won’t happen.


So…


Whenever you meet a woman…


Make sure you meet her in a place that makes logistics easy.


In other words…


Meet her in a venue, close to your place or close to her place.


Preferably close to your place.


That way…


You can quickly bounce her back to your home.


I know… this sounds obvious…


But let me tell ya…


99% of men don't plan their dates with logistics in their minds.


And therefore, they lose a lot of opportunities.


Don’t let it be you!


Instead…


Be a master at logistics!


Okay.


Next up…
 

Secret 4 – How To Be A Ladies Men By Knowing How Even Butt Ugly Dudes Can Have Limitless Success With Women

How To Be A Ladies Men By Knowing How Even Butt Ugly Dudes Can Have Limitless Success With Women

How To Be A Ladies Men By Knowing How Even Butt Ugly Dudes Can Have Limitless Success With Women


As you may or may not know…


I’ve modeled over 100 badass ladies’ men over the past 35 years.


And one of the first guys I modeled was a dude that lived in my town.


We’ll call him John.


Cause I forgot his name.


Well…


John was a short, fat, but-ugly fellow!


And he was dating the hottest girl in town.


If you want to do the point scale thing…


He was a five, and she was a total ten.


Absolutely gorgeous.


And not only were they dating…


But she was crazy in love with him.


Everywhere I saw them…


They were always holding hands.


Having fun together.


So I wondered…


How is that possible?


How is he doing it?


How is “THIS” guy doing it???


It sure as hell wasn’t his looks!


And it wasn’t money either.


Cause he was broke.


And so was his family.


And she was from an upper-middle-class family.


So…


What did this guy have that was so special?


It wasn’t until I studied evolution that I truly understood how this guy was doing it.


You see…


Evolutionary psychology has shown us that women have always – for survival reasons – been attracted to higher-status men.


Nothing new, you might say.


But…


What most people don’t know…


Is that being higher status…


Has nothing to do with money or ownership of land.


Why…


Cause back in cavemen days…


When we evolved our attraction mechanism…


You know…


The things that make us attracted to people…


There was no money!


And there was no ownership of land!


So…


Status couldn’t be based on these things.


Instead…


Status was based on character traits.


Like, dominance.


Being an action taker.


The ability to socialize, lead… etc.


Remember King Joffrey in Game Of Thrones?


He was the highest-status person of his kingdom.


But…


He had low-status behaviors…


And women were repulsed by him!


Okay…


Back to John…


(The guy from my town who was dating this total ten!)


Well…


Even though he was broke…


He had a lot of high-status behaviors!


And that’s why she was so into him!


So…


If you want to be a ladies’ man, focus on developing your status.


Btw…


If you want me to help you develop yourself into a high-status man…


Shoot me an email at nickneeson@introvertedbadass.com...


Put “Status Coaching” in the subject line…


Tell me a bit about your situation and what you want to accomplish…


And I’ll get you all the details.


Next…
 

Secret 5 – How To Be A Ladies Man By Doubling Your Attractiveness Using One Single Word

How To Be A Ladies Man By Doubling Your Attractiveness Using One Single Word

How To Be A Ladies Man By Doubling Your Attractiveness Using One Single Word


I once discovered an amazing scientific experiment.


Simply magic!


A guy DOUBLED his attractiveness…


INSTANTLY…


By simply saying ONE word.


Seriously…


ONE word was spoken out loud...


And like MAGIC… he DOUBLED his attractiveness.


Here’s what happened.


Researchers showed a picture of a man to a group of women.


And asked them to rate the attractiveness of this man.


The women rated the guy at 52% attractiveness.


Then…


The researchers took the same picture and gave it to another group of women.


This time…


They gave the women the exact same instruction…


But they added ONE word.


The first time they said…


“Please rate the attractiveness of this man.”


The second time they said…


"Please rate the attractiveness of this ‘married’ man.”


The only thing they did… was adding the word "married."


And the second group of women rated the guy at 96% attractiveness.


Are you getting this?


Amazing, isn’t it?


ONE WORD!


And he nearly DOUBLED his attractiveness – INSTANTLY!


That's the power of what we call "Pre-selection."


You see…


Studies after studies have shown…


That women are more attracted to a man…


When they know other women are attracted to him!


Hence the word pre-selection.


Cause the guy has been “pre-selected” by other women.


So…


How can you use this insight to become a ladies’ man?


The answer is simple.


Become friends with two or three women.


This will help you in so many ways.


First …


When you go out…. you can invite your female friends.


And other women in the venue will see that you’re pre-selected.


And instantly you’ll become more attractive.


It doesn’t matter if they’re just your friends.


Women will still be much more attracted to you.


I know…


Cause when I was younger…


I had two bombshell friends.


And when they were with me…


I always had a much easier time getting women.


And…


Btw…


You don’t need to go to bars and clubs to make this work!


I took my two hot friends with me to a lot of places.


Shopping… walking… to the gym… etc.


You can do the same.


You can take them to art galleries…


Volunteering events…


Hobbies…


Doesn’t matter.


And everywhere you go, women will think you’re a Rockstar!


Second…


Your female friends will even approach women for you.


They will hook you up in any way they can.


Women just love playing matchmaker!


Third…


Having female friends is very good for your self-esteem.


There’s something about female energy that makes a man feel good about himself.


And if you ever have a bad day…


Cause some girl flaked on you…


And you see your hot friends…


You’ll feel great again in no time.


Fourth…


You’ll automatically dress better.


Cause they will continuously give you fashion advice.


They’ll say…


"This color doesn't look good on you."


“You should combine that shirt with this type of trousers.”


Etc.


Fifth…


You’ll learn a lot about female psychology…


Which will make you better at interacting with women.


And lastly…


You’ll become much more confident around beautiful women.


Cause you’ll be so used to hang around hot babes…


That it won’t affect you anymore.
 

Bonus Secret – How To Be A Ladies Man By “NOT” Building Your Confidence

How To Be A Ladies Man By “NOT” Building Your Confidence

How To Be A Ladies Man By “NOT” Building Your Confidence


In my early twenties…


I worked as a sales rep for a telecommunication company.


And one of my tasks was cold calling.


Every Wednesday, we had a call day.


Which means…


The whole day we called potential clients to set appointments.


And I still remember…


When I was learning how to cold call…


I either did it from home…


Or…


If I was at the office…


I isolated myself in a separate meeting room.


So that nobody could hear me.


But…


After a while, I became pretty good at it.


In fact…


And I know this will sound like bragging…


But I became the best at it.


50 salespeople were working at the company, and nobody could beat me.


Here’s why I’m telling you that story.


Once I was good at cold calling…


I preferred doing it in the big open office space…


While all the other salespeople listened.


So why was that?


How did I shift from being insecure…


And only calling from the privacy of my home…


Or from a separated meeting room…


To being so confident…


That I enjoyed showing off to my colleagues?


The answer: COMPETENCE.


Because I was “competent” at cold calling…


I felt “confident” doing it.


That’s was one of the moments in my life…


That made me understand…


Confidence comes from competence!


And it doesn’t matter if it’s cold calling or whatever.


Remember when you learned to ride a bike?


Remember how scared and insecure you were?


Cause you were not competent yet.


And without the help of your parents, you would fall.


And look at you now…


Do you feel confident riding a bike?


Of course, you do.


Why?


Cause you’re “competent” at riding the bike.


Just look at anything in your life that you were not confident in “before”…


And that you are confident in “today”…


And ask yourself:


“What’s the difference?”


The difference is “competence."


You weren’t competent at it before, but now you are.


And it’s the same with becoming a ladies’ man.


Don’t focus on building your confidence!


Instead…


Focus on building your competence!


Cause once you’re competent…


You’ll automatically become confident!
 

Conclusion on How To Be A Ladies Man

Conclusion on How To Be A Ladies Man

Conclusion on How To Be A Ladies Man



Nobody is born a ladies’ man.


It’s a learnable skill.


And it’s based on science.


All you need to do is implement the tips I gave you in this article.


And if you want help with that…


Simply shoot me a message at nickneeson@introvertedbadass.com...


Put “Ladies Man Coaching” in the subject line…


Tell me a bit more about your situation and what you want to accomplish…


And I’ll get you all the details.


I hope to speak to you very soon.


And regardless…


Have a great day.


Nick
 
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