By the worlds #1 dating coach for Introverted Men - Nick Neeson.

Will you be her emotional tampon or her lover?

Last week I had an interesting conversation with a good friend of mine.


She was complaining about a female colleague that treats men disrespectfully.


Here’s what she told me.


Her colleague is seeing this really nice guy from work.


He’s been having a difficult time, and my friend is his shoulder to cry on.


Last time he spoke to my friend, he told her:

“I really don’t know what to think about her. We’re dating, but we’re not. She’s hot and cold. Close and distant. She sends so many mixed signals. It’s so confusing."

My friend knows what’s really going on. She knows that her colleague is sometimes seeing another guy. Now, this other guy is less reliable and less nice.


In fact, he’s the typical “bad boy”. Still, when he makes time for her, she drops everything she’s doing and rushes over to see him.


So my friend confronted her about this.


She asked why she’s behaving so disrespectfully to the nice guy, and why she jumped through all kinds of hoops just to see that asshole.


Her colleague answered that she actually didn’t like the way the bad guy was treating her, but she accepts it because he has other things to offer her.


So my friend asked her why she doesn’t go for the bad guy completely. Why is she stringing the nice guy along?


Her answer:

“It’s not that I like him because he’s bad. It’s just that he’s exciting, and so confident and sexy. I guess that bad side is just what comes with the package. And the other one… Well, I can count on him. I know he will always be there for me, but it’s so predictable and boring.” I wish I could combine both of them into one man.”

 

The worst part of this story? Even though my friend couldn’t stand her colleague’s behavior, she could somehow understand her.

Here’s what she said to me.

“Somehow, I understand her. He’s really good-looking, but even I wouldn’t want to date him. He’s just too nice.”

 

I can tell from personal experience with my clients that this happens to many men.


What can we learn from this? Are good men doomed? Should good men become bad guys if they want to get the keys to women’s hearts?


Hell no!  


Here’s why.


In my 20+ years of helping introverted men get their love life handled, I’ve learned that women actually don’t like bad guys. They don’t like their bad side AT ALL!


They only like some of the qualities that bad guys have.


But they also like parts of the nice guy.


 

Sadly, when it comes to sexual chemistry, the bad boy almost always wins.

 

But there is yet another kind of man: a man who combines the good qualities of both the bad guy and the good guy, without the bad side of either of them.


We call him the Good Bad Boy.

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And he’s exactly what my friend’s colleague was looking for when she said:


 

“I wish I could combine both of them into one man”.

 

Yes, women definitely prefer the bad boy over the nice guy.


But they will dump both of them, in the blink of an eye, for the Good Bad Boy.


Luckily, it’s quite easy for good men to become the Good Bad Boy.


You just need to know the qualities women like in bad boys, so you can give them the good stuff without the bad stuff.  


Here are some of those qualities (but it’s not limited to this):

Confidence

Most bad boys “look” confident, and women love that. Granted, they behave arrogantly. Women don’t like arrogance, but they do like confidence.

Challenge

I hate to say it like this to you, but most nice guys are needy. They care too much about what women think. They put women on pedestals.


The bad guy, on the other hand, cares much more about himself.
He does the opposite of all that. He’s egotistic.


Women don’t like the egoist side of bad boys, but they do love the challenge.

Sexual tension

It’s the driving force at the center of EVERY romantic book, movie, and fantasy…


Yet most nice guys are so afraid of offending women that they completely fail to trigger any “It’s getting hot in here” feelings in women.


That’s why women use words like “boring” to describe them.  


Even worse, most women think nice guys are dishonest.


Why?


Because they hide their true intentions. Many befriend women in the hopes they can “get her” through this tactic. They hide all sexuality as if it’s something bad.

Nice guys hide their true intentions because it’s a tactic. They hope to fall in her good graces.

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Women know that! Bad guys, on the other hand, have no problem creating sexual tension. And so women prefer the bad guy with all his flaws because “at least he’s honest” and “at least he’s not boring”.


As a good guy, you have a lot of things women love too. You’re reliable, you give her emotional support, and you take care of her.  


Here’s the kicker: if you add confidence, being a challenge, and creating sexual tension to those qualities, then you become that mythical man called the Good Bad Boy.


In my experience, building sexual tension is the most difficult part for good men.


Once you’re comfortable doing that, your masculinity will grow stronger and you’ll automatically become more confident and more challenging.


There’s just something about knowing how to make women sexually attracted to you that boosts your self-confidence.  


So I’d like to give you three quick tips to build sexual attraction in women:

Eye Contact + Pause = Sexual Tension

When you look a woman in the eyes while leaving a pause in the conversation, it builds sexual tension.

Imagine making love to her

After talking to her for a while, imagine that you’re making love to her. This will shift your state into an aroused state. She will feel that shift and if you are both in rapport, she will slip into that state with you. I know it sounds strange, but it works. It’s because of mirror neurons that allow us to feel what others are feeling.

Talk about sexual topics

Probably the easiest one of all is to just start talking about sexual topics.


However, you need to know when and how to gradually introduce them into the conversation. Timing and sequence is everything here.


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