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By the worlds #1 dating coach for Introverted Men - Nick Neeson.
One of the biggest mistakes thoughtful, introverted men make is ASSUMING THAT ATTRACTION WORKS THE SAME WAY FOR WOMEN THAT IT DOES FOR MEN.
It only makes sense that since men are attracted to looks and sweet personalities, it’s the same for women, right?
As a consequence, many men try to work the same angle. They start wearing nice clothes, do nice things for women, and try to be the nicest guy in the world.
They accommodate to the extreme and they put up with manipulative, flaky, and spoiled-princess behavior. Some even go so far as to mimic women’s sweet facial expressions.
But since all that’s not working, many introverts keep coming to the same conclusion:
“I must not be attractive enough, rich enough, or something enough.”
News flash: there’s nothing wrong with you!
Women and men are attracted to different things. Men are more attracted to looks, and women are more attracted to character.
For men, attraction gets triggered by what is seen. For women, attraction gets triggered by what can never be seen.
So how do you build a personality that triggers those magical, powerful, gut-level attraction feelings in women?
It only makes sense that since men are attracted to looks and sweet personalities, it’s the same for women, right?
As a consequence, many men try to work the same angle. They start wearing nice clothes, do nice things for women, and try to be the nicest guy in the world.
They accommodate to the extreme and they put up with manipulative, flaky, and spoiled-princess behavior. Some even go so far as to mimic women’s sweet facial expressions.
But since all that’s not working, many introverts keep coming to the same conclusion:
“I must not be attractive enough, rich enough, or something enough.”
News flash: there’s nothing wrong with you!
Since men are attracted to looks and sweet personalities, many assume it’s the same for women.
As a consequence, many men try to work the same angle. They start wearing nice clothes, do nice things for women, and try to be the nicest guy in the world. But it doesn’t work like this.
Women and men are attracted to different things. Men are more attracted to looks, and women are more attracted to character.
For men, attraction gets triggered by what is seen. For women, attraction gets triggered by what can never be seen.
So how do you build a personality that triggers those magical, powerful, gut-level attraction feelings in women?
There’s one particular thing that women look for in a man’s personality, and they don’t even realize what it is.
There’s one thing that the world’s greatest studs have and that you can develop too. In fact, everybody can develop it. It’s so easy to do it once you know what it is.
Are you ready for it?
Here it comes... Probably the single most important trait that all the greatest ladies’ men have in common… Drums are rolling for suspense… Here it is…
… CONTRAST!
Yep, CONTRAST!
“Contrast? What do you mean, Nick?”
Let me explain.
Most men that are naturally great with women have contrasting character traits.
For example: They can be funny, but then they can also be very serious. They might be sexual and dominant, but then they can be silly and playful. They might be thoughtful and empathetic, but then they contrast it by being decisive and challenging.
I think you get the point. They are balancing opposing personality traits. It’s a bit like a push-pull effect, and women love it.
But why is this so attractive to women?
Think of it like this: It’s difficult to find one quality that will work for every situation and that will keep the relationship moving forward continuously.
Imagine a man that is funny and silly all the time… You don’t have to be a woman to see that if he is like this all the time, women will think of him as an immature boy.
Another example is being nice. If a man is nice all the time, it doesn’t take long for women to see him as just a friend.
The same goes for jerks. Yes, women prefer jerks over nice guys, but not as much as you think. They might feel an initial feeling of attraction for him, but they won’t stay with him very long.
They’ll get fed up with him quickly. The only women who stay with real jerks are psychologically damaged women. You wouldn’t want them anyway.
Also, using the same character traits continuously makes you boring. It’s like looking at a movie where the actors always use the same facial expression and keep evoking the same emotion in you.
It’s predictable!
And you want to zzzzzzz….
So, if you want to become a badass with women, you need to develop some contrasting personality traits.
But which personality traits are the best?
The best qualities to combine are good-guy traits with some bad-boy traits. Now stay with me—this doesn’t mean you need to become a bad guy.
It just means you need to balance your good-guy qualities with some of the attractive traits of the bad boy. Let’s take a look at both good-guy and bad-boy traits to make it more clear.
There’s one thing that the world’s greatest studs have and that you can develop too. In fact, everybody can develop it. It’s so easy to do it once you know what it is.
Are you ready for it?
Here it comes... Probably the single most important trait that all the greatest ladies’ men have in common… Drums are rolling for suspense… Here it is…
… CONTRAST!
Most men that are naturally great with women have contrasting character traits. They are balancing opposing personality traits. It’s a bit like a push-pull effect, and women love it.
Yep, CONTRAST!
“Contrast? What do you mean, Nick?”
Let me explain.
Most men that are naturally great with women have contrasting character traits.
For example: They can be funny, but then they can also be very serious. They might be sexual and dominant, but then they can be silly and playful. They might be thoughtful and empathetic, but then they contrast it by being decisive and challenging.
I think you get the point. They are balancing opposing personality traits. It’s a bit like a push-pull effect, and women love it.
But why is this so attractive to women?
Think of it like this: It’s difficult to find one quality that will work for every situation and that will keep the relationship moving forward continuously.
Imagine a man that is funny and silly all the time… You don’t have to be a woman to see that if he is like this all the time, women will think of him as an immature boy.
Another example is being nice. If a man is nice all the time, it doesn’t take long for women to see him as just a friend.
The same goes for jerks. Yes, women prefer jerks over nice guys, but not as much as you think. They might feel an initial feeling of attraction for him, but they won’t stay with him very long.
Using the same character traits continuously makes you boring. It’s like looking at a movie where the actors always use the same facial expression and keep evoking the same emotion in you.
They’ll get fed up with him quickly. The only women who stay with real jerks are psychologically damaged women. You wouldn’t want them anyway.
Also, using the same character traits continuously makes you boring. It’s like looking at a movie where the actors always use the same facial expression and keep evoking the same emotion in you.
It’s predictable!
And you want to zzzzzzz….
So, if you want to become a badass with women, you need to develop some contrasting personality traits.
But which personality traits are the best?
The best qualities to combine are good-guy traits with some bad-boy traits. Now stay with me—this doesn’t mean you need to become a bad guy.
It just means you need to balance your good-guy qualities with some of the attractive traits of the bad boy. Let’s take a look at both good-guy and bad-boy traits to make it more clear.
Nice Guy Traits
Here’s a list of nice guy traits.
• Empathy
• Connection
• Being thoughtful
• Listening
• Honesty
• Being playful and silly
• Giving genuine compliments. The trick is to give a compliment about her character, not her looks.
• Showing vulnerability but without dwelling on it. For example, if your parents divorced when you were a small child, you could tell her that on a date. But you need to tell it in a way so she sees you’re over it.
All these qualities are really nice qualities to have. They build trust, connection, and even a certain element of attraction. But if you only have these character traits, you’re giving her an even experience that can become boring.
If you’ve ever been put in the friend zone, you know what I’m talking about.
So, what do you do about it? How do you develop a personality that magnetically attracts women?
It’s easier than you think. Just add some opposing qualities.
Bad-Boy Traits
Being High-Status
Status is the number-one attraction trigger within women, and for good evolutionary reasons.
It goes back to the times when we lived as hunter-gatherers. If women mated with the highest-status man in the tribe, her chances of surviving and those of her offspring would increase.
So over the course of two million years of evolution, women have developed an attraction switch that gets triggered when they see high-status signals in men.
An easy way to give off high status signals is to imagine you are of a higher status than her.
By imagining it, your behavioral cues will be higher-status. She’ll see it in your behavior and you’ll trigger attraction.
For example. When you’re on a date with her, imagine you are a CEO and you are interviewing her for a job. When you do, you will automatically come across as screening her and qualifying her.
‘Oh, you say you are a good cook. Tell me, what makes you think that? What are your best dishes?’
You’ll notice that she’ll get in a mode of trying to prove herself to you.
Teasing
Teasing is a great way to spice up a conversation that is getting boring. You want to get the “OMG, I can’t believe you just said that!” effect.
For example, at some point during your date you might ask her if she keeps in contact with her exes. If she says yes, you say, “What, like ALL of them?!?”
The trick to make this work is to say it in a tone that implies she has 100 exes or so.
Decisiveness
If she asks you something, don’t say stuff like, “I don’t know, what do you want to do?”
Instead, be firm and decisive.
Here are some examples:
“No, I don’t like that.”
“I don’t want to do that, I want to do this.”
“I’m thirsty. Let’s go get a drink.”
It might look to you like you’re not taking her opinion into account, but women love it.
Seriousness
Be able to have an intellectual discussion about something and cut out the jokes. Demonstrate your knowledge.
Ask her opinion. Listen. Consider, and then give a response.
Challenge Her
If you are talking to her and you have another opinion about something, just tell her. Voice your opinion. If she likes the movie “Dirty Dancing”, don’t be afraid to tell her it’s lame.
Sexuality
Just like with teasing, you can use sexuality to spice up a flat or boring interaction.You can do it in a verbal and nonverbal way.
Here’s an example of a nonverbal way to spike sexual arousal in her.
At some point during your conversation with her, just stop, look at her lips, and smirk. This will break her concentration. She’ll say things like “Stop that!”
Women love it because it shows you are confident enough to show her this, but at the same time you are subtle enough to do it in a nonverbal way.
When you do this, her heart rate will increase and she’ll start to think about kissing you.
You can also use sexuality in a verbal way.
For example, when she says something you, you can say something like “Yeah, I bet you do” or “Yeah… I thought you are that kind of girl”.
You can also use touch and physical escalation to create sexual arousal.
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So how can you develop contrast tailored to your personality?
Here’s a little exercise to help you to do just that.
The Chick Magnet Exercise
Step 1: List your top five personality traits.
Step 2: For each of your top five personality traits, write down the opposite trait.
Step 3: Become aware of when you use your natural personality traits, and start to balance them with some of your opposite traits.
I suggest you focus on one pair of opposing traits per day. That makes it easy to learn. Just choose a different combination every day, and only focus on that combination.
Do this for all five traits, and then start again with the first trait and repeat the process.
If you do this for about 90 days straight, you will have developed a new and improved personality. You will have developed a chick magnet personality.
Conclusion
All the greatest ladies’ men in the world have contrast in their personality.They balance opposing character traits.
The best combination of character traits to attract women is a mix of good-guy qualities and bad-boy qualities. We call it being the Good Bad Boy, and women go bananas for that combination.
Most thoughtful, introverted men are only using nice-guy qualities.
This gives women a flat and boring experience and gets introverted men slam-dunked into the friend zone.
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