How To Get Girls On Tinder: The 7 Biggest Levers
How To Make Girls Laugh: 9 Scientifically Proven Ways
By the worlds #1 dating coach for Introverted Men - Nick Neeson.
If you want to know how to get girls on Tinder – even if you're an introvert – keep reading.
Cause…
In this article…
I'm going to show precisely how to do it.
All the tips you’ll get…
Are either proven by “science”…
Or by 25+ years of experience as a dating coach for introverted men.
Oh…
Btw…
If you’re really serious about getting girls from dating apps…
I'm going to work with a handful of introverts over the following months.
We’ll dive deep into “exactly” how to get girls on Tinder…
As well as on other dating apps.
If that tickles your fancy…
Shoot me a message at nickneeson@introvertedbadass.com...
Put “How To Get Girls On Tinder” in the subject line…
And I’ll get you all the details.
Okay.
Let’s dive right in!
Cause…
In this article…
I'm going to show precisely how to do it.
All the tips you’ll get…
Are either proven by “science”…
Or by 25+ years of experience as a dating coach for introverted men.
Oh…
Btw…
If you’re really serious about getting girls from dating apps…
I'm going to work with a handful of introverts over the following months.
We’ll dive deep into “exactly” how to get girls on Tinder…
As well as on other dating apps.
If that tickles your fancy…
Shoot me a message at nickneeson@introvertedbadass.com...
Put “How To Get Girls On Tinder” in the subject line…
And I’ll get you all the details.
Okay.
Let’s dive right in!
Secret 1 – How To Get Girls On Tinder By Understanding The Pareto Rule
How To Get Girls On Tinder By Understanding The Pareto Rule
A while ago…
I read an email from one of my business mentors.
But it wasn’t about business.
It was about his personal life.
He wrote that he always felt insecure about himself…
Cause he was a skinny guy.
So…
He started lifting weights.
And he tried a lot of different workouts.
And he did gain “some” weight.
But…
It wasn’t until he focused on the “big three” that he really started to gain muscle mass.
Now, if you don’t know the big three…
They are…
Bench-presses
Squats
And deadlifts.
There are hundreds of different exercises you can do…
But if you focus on just these three…
You’ll gain the most muscles.
Why am I telling you this?
Cause it’s the same with almost everything in life.
Most of your results will come from a small number of big levers.
In fact…
There’s a principle called the Pareto principle…
That states that 80 of your results will come from 20% of your actions.
For example.
In business…
80 of the revenue comes from 20% of the clients.
In your home…
80% of the steps you take…
Are on 20% of the available space.
And it's the same with getting girls on Tinder.
There are a few big levers that will get you the most girls.
And that’s what we’re going to focus on in this article.
Cause most blog posts on how to get girls on Tinder…
Are overwhelming!
Cause they are filled with trivial information.
It’s like explaining all the different weight lift exercises…
While you only need to focus on the big three.
That’s why…
In this article…
We’re going to do the opposite of that.
Let your competition drown themselves in information that doesn’t move the needle.
We’re going to focus on the 20% of BIG LEVERS…
That get you 80% of the results.
Starting with…
Secret 2 – How To Get Girls On Tinder By Using The Perfect Profile Picture, Proven By “Science”
How To Get Girls On Tinder By Using The Perfect Profile Picture, Proven By “Science”
I’ve been obsessing for a very long time over what makes the perfect Tinder profile picture.
And one of the things I noticed is that all the top profile pictures on Tinder…
Kind of look the same.
They all have the same look and feel.
But I couldn’t really figure out the formula behind it.
Sure…
I saw some common things…
Like…
They were all headshots.
And no action shots.
But…
I kept wondering…
There must be a formula for these perfect headshots…
And it turns out there is.
You see…
I in my quest to find the perfect Tinder picture…
I stumbled upon research from a group of neuroscientists.
Now, these guys…
“Literally” ...
Made it their mission…
To discover the formula for the perfect Tinder picture.
I mean…
They went ALL THE WAY!
They analyzed participant’s responses to different photos…
Used eye-tracking…
EEG…
As well as behavioral responses…
To determine which pictures were seen as the most attractive.
And more importantly…
What these pictures had in common.
And they found…
Four traits that make the most attractive Tinder profile picture.
Here they are…
High contrast.
You need to stand out or “pop” in your picture instead of fading into it.
How To Get Girls On Tinder By Popping Out In Your Picture.
Picture Source: Unravel Research
Low noise.
This simply means you want as few distracting elements in the picture as possible.
How To Get Girls On Tinder By Having Low Noise Backgrounds
Picture Source: Unravel Research
No other people.
You want to be the only person in the frame.
How To Get Girls On Tinder By Having A Picture With Only You
Picture Source: Unravel Research
Composition.
Close up photo (but not just your face). Ideally, show the upper third of your body. Cause our brain prefers to look at pictures showing the upper third of our body.
How To Get Girls On Tinder By Having The Right Composition
Picture Source: Unravel Research
No sunglasses.
Eye-contact is important
How To Get Girls On Tinder By Showing Your Eyes
Picture Source: Unravel Research
If you want to take a deeper dive into what pictures are the most attractive…
Watch this video.
Now…
As important as these tips are…
They are only meant for your first picture.
Not all of them!
Cause…
If all your pictures look like this…
You won’t get many matches…
Why?
Cause you’ll come across as a one-sided individual…
Also…
If you’re worried that you don’t have the looks to pull off a good picture like the ones you just saw…
No worries.
In fact,…
No worries at all!
And there are multiple reasons why it’s not a problem.
First of all…
Believe it or not…
Hiring a good photographer will do the trick.
When you explain these four things to a good photographer…
As well as use some light editing on your pics…
You WILL look good in your shots.
Even if you don’t look good in real life!
I see this time and again.
Each time guys tell me…
They look awful in pictures…
I give them the same advice.
And when they actually follow the advice…
Meaning…
Hiring a pro…
Following these four rules…
And using light editing…
They are always astonished at how good they suddenly look in their photos.
Second…
And you’re going to love this…
Especially if you’re not blessed in the looks department.
Ready for it?
Here we go.
The story that your pictures tell is more important than your looks.
Let me repeat that…
The story that your pictures tell is more important than your genetic looks.
Here’s what I mean.
According to evolutionary psychology…
Humans developed their attraction mechanisms…
You know…
The things that make us attracted to people…
In caveman days.
Meaning….
In times that surviving was harsh.
And because survival was so hard back in those days…
Women needed to find mates that maximized their chances of survival.
Therefore…
Evolution has built a mechanism into women…
That triggers attraction when they see certain character traits in men.
Survival character traits.
Like…
Dominance.
Confidence.
Assertiveness.
Being an action taker.
Etc.
There are many more.
These are just a few examples to illustrate this.
Now…
Here's the excellent news…
Evolution has programmed women…
To attach much MORE importance to these inner qualities…
Than to a man’s good looks!
Why?
Cause being less good-looking didn't impact your chances of survival.
Anyway…
What does this have to do with your pictures?
Well…
Your photos need to show these attractive character traits!
In other words, …
The story your pictures tell needs to showcase high-survival traits.
For example…
Here’s a picture telling a story that implies many high-survival traits.
How To Get Girls On Tinder By Showing High-Survival Qualities In Your Pictures
First…
The guy is playing sports.
He’s showcasing athleticism.
Which is a high survival trait.
Second.
The picture says he has friends.
Which is a high-survival trait.
Cause back in cavemen days…
It was a pretty good thing to have friends.
And third…
He’s winning.
Cause he has the ball.
And being a winner…
Is...
Of course...
A high survival trait!
See what I mean?
So…
If you want to get girls on Tinder…
The first thing you want to focus on is making good pictures.
Cause pictures do 80% of the work for you.
And the difference between good and bad pictures…
Is often in the details.
Like the subtle story, your picture tells.
Or whether the background of your pictures is more or less noisy.
But these details make a big difference.
Just like the difference between a Rembrandt and a reproduction, is also in the details.
Yet…
A Rembrandt is worth much more than a reproduction.
And therefore will attract way “more” people….
As well as “higher-quality” ones.
Same with your pics.
The better they are…
The more women you’ll match with…
And the higher quality they will be.
Secret 3 – How To Get Girls On Tinder By Using Donald Trump’s Reversed Psychology Hack
How To Get Girls On Tinder By Using Donald Trump’s Reversed Psychology Hack
I tell this story about Trump a lot.
Because there’s such a powerful lesson in it.
Did you know Trump rattled supermodel Heidi Klum…?
With just five words…
Wanna know what he said?
Here it is.
A reporter once asked Trump a question about Heidi Klum…
And he said…
“She’s no longer a ten.”
That’s it.
Five words…
That rattled her like never before.
I mean…
She just brought it up to the press…
Again…
And again…
And again…
And again!
And each time she did…
She was angrier and more rattled by it!
Btw…
I’m not endorsing what Trump said.
Neither do I think you should say this to women.
But…
He used a fantastic psychological trick...
So powerful that the hottest women are chasing after him.
Here it is.
He positioned him as “the price."
You see…
Most women see themselves as the price.
And men should be happy if they can ever date them.
But what Trump did…
Was Brilliant!
He positioned himself as the price.
He positioned himself as the selector.
Cause his 5-word sentence…
Implied she didn’t meet “his” standards anymore.
So…
How do you apply this to getting girls on Tinder?
And how do you do it without rattling them?
You know…
In a nicer way
The answer is simple.
In your bio description…
Instead of selling yourself by listing all your qualities…
Like saying…
I’m adventurous, have a great sense of humor, etc.…
(Which 99% of all guys do)
Turn it around!
Tell them what you are looking for in a woman!
For example…
I’m looking for a woman that is adventurous and has a great sense of humor, etc.
See what I just did?
I simply turned it around.
Why does this work?
Cause it positions YOU as the price.
Not her.
Now, SHE has to pass YOUR qualifications.
And not the other way around.
You’re not being selected by her.
She’s being selected by YOU!
You’re the selector.
You’re the price!
This is a powerful, POWERFUL way to structure your bio description.
Not only will it get you more girls on Tinder (and other apps) …
But it will get you hotter and higher-quality ones, too!
Btw…
If you’re really serious about getting girls online…
I'm going to work with a handful of introverts over the following months.
We'll dive deep into "exactly" how to get girls on Tinder…
As well as on other dating apps.
If that tickles your fancy…
Shoot me a message at nickneeson@introvertedbadass.com...
Put “How To Get Girls On Tinder” in the subject line…
And I’ll get you all the details.
Okay.
Let’s have a look at the next thing you can do.
Secret 4 – How To Get Girls On Tinder With This Secret Swipe Hack
How To Get Girls On Tinder With This Secret Swipe Hack
One of my very first jobs…
Was as a sales rep for a telecommunication company.
I was a B2B sales rep.
It stands for Business 2 Business.
Meaning I was selling to businesses, not to consumers.
And one of my tasks was to cold call on prospective clients.
And to this very day…
I still remember what my first manager told me.
He said…
When you cold call on businesses…
Don’t go and look at their websites.
Cause you’ll waste a lot of time.
Cause when you call…
They might not even pick up the phone…
Not be in the office…
Being in a meeting…
Etc.
Which means you prepare for nothing.
And by the time you call them again…
You’ll forget about it and have to prepare again.
So…
Instead…
He gave me a universal script that worked regardless of the type of company I called on.
And because of that, I didn't need to prepare anymore.
As a result…
I did much more calls than my colleagues…
And I became the number one cold caller in the company!
And I’m an introvert…
Go figure.
So why am I telling you this?
Cause…
It’s the same with swiping.
Most guys are too picky when they swipe.
And they’ll read the profiles of women before they swipe.
This is a bad strategy.
Cause…
You put a lot of time into women…
Which you didn’t even match with.
A much better strategy is…
To take just 5 or 10 minutes of time (or however much time you want)…
And just swipe right on ALL of them!
Don’t even bother looking at their bio.
Heck…
Don’t even look at their pictures!
There are many reasons why this strategy is so much better.
First…
You’ll get many more matches.
Second…
You save a lot of time.
Cause…
You’ll only read their profile after you matched.
Which means…
There’s less volume to read.
And third…
Because you get more matches…
The Tinder algorithm will recognize you as someone that women like to match with.
Which will make them show you to more women.
As well as higher quality ones.
Next up.
Secret 5 – How To Get Girls On Tinder By Avoiding The Huge Mistake Most Guys Make
How To Get Girls On Tinder By Avoiding The Huge Mistake Most Guys Make
Most introverted men are thoughtful men.
And they want to show that to the women they match with.
And the way they do that is by tailoring their icebreaker messages…
To the women’s profiles.
But that’s a huge mistake.
And for two reasons.
First of all…
Crafting a good icebreaker message from scratch…
Is a risky thing.
Cause that message has not been tested.
And chances are it will not work as well.
Even for me (a dating coach with over 35 years of experience)…
Crafting an opening message from scratch…
Is not always easy.
So…
You’re much better of using one that has been proven to work.
Btw…
At Introverted Badass, we tested this.
And it’s not just us.
Other huge dating companies have tested it on a colossal scale, as well!
And each time…
Standard messages outperform tailored ones.
Why?
Cause the standard messages were refined over time.
And proven to work!
The second reason you want to use standard messages is this.
In online dating…
The most important metric is not you’re success rate.
It’s your return on time invested.
For example.
Let’s say I create a message from scratch…
Completely tailored to a woman’s profile.
That could take me 30 minutes to come up with something really good.
But how many copy-paste messages do you think I can send in 30 minutes?
A LOT.
So let’s say in those 30 minutes…
I send 30 copy and paste messages.
And let’s say just 10% of women reply…
Which is “extremely” low on proven messages.
But for the sake of the example, let's use this meager reply rate.
Well…
At 10%...
I still have 3 women that replied and that I can have a conversation with now.
And I spend only 30 minutes on it.
But if I send a tailored message…
I can only send 1 in 30 minutes.
Which means that even if I get a 100% success rate…
Which is impossible…
I still have fewer results…
Cause I have only 1 reply in 30 minutes instead of 3!
That’s why…
Your success rate is NOT essential online.
But your return on time invested is!
Imagine having a restaurant.
And you want to lure people inside with free appetizers.
If you make a totally different kind of appetizer…
For every person that passes your restaurant…
Based on their personal taste…
Well…
First of all…
You don’t have the time to make all these different recipes.
Meaning…
Few potential customers will taste your appetizers.
And second…
You didn’t test them.
Meaning…
People might not like ‘em.
But…
If you pick just one appetizer...
Your most popular one…
Then…
Not only do you run your restaurant much more efficiently…
But you’ll also have more people liking the appetizer.
Ironic, isn’t it?
By focusing on return on time invested, you also increased your success rate.
It’s the same with ice breaker messages.
Use your best one over and over again…
And you’ll get much more dates in much less time!
Btw…
Here's a proven message you can use on Tinder
"Found a picture of you reading your tinder messages."
This message, combined with the gif works wonders because…
That’s exactly how most women feel when they scroll their Tinder messages.
She'll feel like you get her.
Which creates instant rapport!
Kind of like when you're waiting for the bus, and it's late…
And someone says, "don't you hate it when the bus is late?"
You'll instantly be in rapport with that person.
Cause that's what you're thinking at that moment.
It's like the person was reading your mind.
Very powerful!
Next up...
Secret 6 – How To Get Girls On Tinder By Using A Strategy Used By The World’s Top Sales People
How To Get Girls On Tinder By Using A Strategy Used By The World’s Top Sales People
When I was managing sales teams…
A slide I often showed to my reps is this one:
Amazing, isn't it?
80% of the deals happen after the 5th follow-up or more…
Yet…
Less than 10% of salespeople follow up more than 3 times.
Can you imagine how much money is left on the table?
What’s the link with getting girls on Tinder?
Well…
If you send an icebreaker to a girl on Tinder and she doesn’t respond…
You need to follow up.
Cause if you don’t…
You’ll leave a lot of dates on the table.
Just like bad sales reps leave a lot of deals on the table.
You see…
Around 35% of all your replies on dating apps will come from your second follow-up message.
Which is a pretty significant number.
Don’t neglect it.
Btw…
Here's a great message you can send as a follow-up.
“Oh no radio silence. Should I put on my tights and cape to come save you?”
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Secret 7 – How To Get Girls On Tinder By Using “In Heat Sensors”
How To Get Girls On Tinder By Using “In Heat Sensors”
I like to watch documentaries about animals on National Geographic.
One of the things I always find fascinating…
Is how males…
No matter what species…
Can “sense” when females are in heat.
But…
For some reason…
Analytical, introverted guys…
Have a harder time with this.
They often ask me…
“Nick, how many messages should I send her before asking her out?”
And my answer is always the same.
Between 4 to 6 messages on Tinder.
But…
And this is a BIG BUT…
It depends on her “in heat” signals.
Now…
Obviously…
I’m joking!
I’m not talking about “in heat” like in the animal kingdom.
I’m talking about signs women are ready to go on a date with you.
And sometimes you get those signs within 4 messages.
But sometimes it can take 8 or 10.
On average, it's between 4 to 6 messages.
It’s like asking how long traffic lights stay red.
Usually, it’s between 1 and 2 minutes.
But…
It can be longer or shorter depending on the situation.
For example…
If you arrive at the traffic light after it was already red for a minute…
It will take less time to turn green.
And sometimes…
Depending on the traffic on other streets…
It might take longer than two minutes.
Cause some traffic lights will consider the traffic on other streets.
It's the same with how long you should wait to ask a girl out on Tinder.
So…
How do you know she’s ready?
Well…
It’s pretty simple.
Usually,…
The longer her answers…
The more questions she asks you…
And the more emojis she uses…
The more she’s interested in you.
And the more likely she will say "yes" when you ask her out.
Pretty common sense, isn’t it?
So…
Look for those signs.
And then ask her out.
Conclusion On How To Get Girls On Tinder
Conclusion On How To Get Girls On Tinder
Being successful on Tinder can be challenging...
But it can also be simple.
It depends on whether you use the right strategies.
This article showed you how to get girls on Tinder using the most significant levers that I've discovered.
And the best part is…
They work very well for introverted men.
I know…
Cause coaching introverted men on their dating life is our specialization.
Oh…
I almost forgot…
If you’re really serious about getting girls online…
I'm going to work with a handful of introverts over the following months.
We'll dive deep into "exactly" how to get girls on Tinder…
As well as on other dating apps.
If that tickles your fancy…
Shoot me a message at nickneeson@introvertedbadass.com...
Put “How To Get Girls On Tinder” in the subject line...
And I’ll get you all the details.
Have a great day!
Nick
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