There’s a legendary story about Hugh Hefner that gets passed around...


In the 70s, Hugh met Barbi Brenton and invited her out on a date.


He was almost 50. She was 21.


At a certain point during their date, she said, “I’ve never dated anyone over 25.”


To which Hugh replied, “That’s okay. Neither have I.”


If you’re a beginner, you won’t get these objections.


But if you read your IB articles, you’ll quickly improve your dating skills.


You’ll start to talk to women and get phone numbers and dates pretty fast.


Once you start to get better with women, you will run into some objections that you’ve never heard before.


When that happens, you need to be prepared.


There are basically two ways that you can handle objections: proactive and reactive.


Proactive is when you deal with the objection before she even has a chance to voice it.

This is a powerful strategy, because it’s much easier to change someone’s mind on a certain topic if they haven’t thought about it too much.


By preempting them, you avoid them starting to think about the objection and develop a strong opinion about it.


For example, she might be younger than you. Instead of waiting for her to comment on it, you could treat it proactively. I’ll show you exactly how to do that later in this article.


Reactive is when you treat the objection after she’s brought it up.


Let’s see how this works.


Here are six of the most common objections you might encounter.

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1. Age Difference.

If you are 33 and she’s 23, that’s 10 years of age difference. The best thing to do here is to preempt her objection. That’s because with this age difference you know that it’s very possible for her to think about this.


There’s a few ways you can treat it proactively.


One is to frame it like she’s too young for you.


“Normally I get along better with people that are older and more mature. You know, people that know what they want in life. Would you consider yourself mature for your age?”


Another way you can handle this is by proactively turning it around and painting a negative picture of younger guys.


“Don’t you think you should date younger people? You know, like skateboarders or schoolboys?”


The reason it works is because you just painted younger guys in a way that’s immature and boyish. Most women don’t want immature boys—they want a man.


You can also use this last one as a reactive strategy. Meaning, if she makes a remark about your age first. But, in general, you’re better off doing it proactively. It works much better.

2. “I Bet You Say That To All The Girls You Date.”

When you start to go on different dates, your vibe will change. You’ll get more experience and you’ll grow more confident.


Women will pick up on that and tell you about it. That objection might come in different forms.


She might ask you if you go on dates often. She might playfully accuse you of having many girls in your life, etc.


That’s just something that comes with becoming better with women.


When a woman asks you about this, that’s a GOOD sign. It means she’s attracted to you.


When it happens, the best thing to do is to stay honest.


Give her an honest answer, and then turn the focus back on her. That way, you don’t stay in the hot seat forever.


When I was in my single days I always said something like:


“Yes, it’s true. When I’m single, I go on dates with different girls and I might even be seeing a few women at the same time. And I’m always open and honest about it. But when I’m in a relationship, I’m 100% loyal and committed.”


“What about you? Do you party a lot and date a lot?”

3. “Why Me?”

Some women will flat out ask you why you want to date them and not some other girl.


She’s looking to see if there’s something specific about her that you like, other than her looks.


She knows that there are many other pretty women out there, and she wants to find out what your criteria are aside from just looks. More importantly, she wants to see if those criteria are unique attributes that she has.


The best way to treat this, again, is to be honest.


In many of my posts I speak about the importance of developing a list of requirements that women need to meet for you to date them—requirements that go beyond just looks.


Well, this is a perfect moment to talk about some of those criteria.


“Yes, there are lots of beautiful women, and I do like that. But I’m looking for honesty, a sense of humor, maybe even a little dorky side. So far I’m feeling really comfortable with you and I feel attracted to you, but I want to see if we have a connection.”

4. “All Men Are Liars.”

Many women have been hurt in the past, and a good number of them think all men are liars.


This might not be something that she will say out loud, but many women have that idea about men.


So, even if she doesn’t say it, the objection is often there.


Here’s how you deal with it.


If you sense that she’s suspicious, the best thing to do is, again, be honest.


As you can see, honesty is an important value here at Team IB.


In this case, you’ll be honest by doing a damaging confession. You’ll reveal something you did in the past that wasn’t really okay.


Like maybe, once, when you were younger, you did tell a woman that you liked her just to sleep with her.


When you make a damaging admission like this, she’ll start to trust you. Ironic, isn’t it?


No need for lies and manipulation, just the truth!

5. “Are You Just Looking To Sleep With Me?”

Sometimes, women will just come out and ask you if you are just looking to sleep with them.


Remember, many women are suspicious of men’s intentions and for good reasons.


The way you handle this is (say it with me) through honesty.


Just admit to her that you are a man and that you have your desires.


Tell her you think she’s beautiful and that you like some part of her body, but what you’re really looking for are some nonphysical character traits.


Again, taking the time to think through what character traits are important to you in a woman will help you with that.


Be honest about it. She’ll know if you’re lying. She’ll see it on your face.


“You know, you’re right. I’m a man and I have my desires. I think you’re beautiful and I love your long neck. It’s sexually appealing, but what I’m really looking for is honesty and a sense of humor, a bit of a dorky side actually.”

6. “It’s Going Too Fast.”

Sometimes women tell you that things are going too fast. They might say things like, “We just met” or “It’s too soon” or “I’m not that easy”.


Now, these things usually happen later in the dating process, when both of you are at your place or hers and you’re about to become sexually intimate.


Sometimes they say this because they think it’s really going too fast, but many times they say it because they don’t want you to judge them.


The way you answer this objection is by reassuring her that you won’t judge her.


For example: “It’s alright. I already know you are a good girl. You don’t have to keep showing it to me. It’s okay to do what you want. It’s okay to enjoy yourself. As long as you’re not dating a lot of men or taking drugs, I won’t think badly of you. If something feels right, you can do it.”


Now again, bear in mind that you are just recomforting her at a crucial time.


This is not meant as some sort of manipulation technique. If you’ve been honest with her up until now, it’s okay to help her get over this mental barrier.

Conclusion

Objections are part of the dating process. As you get better at dating, and as you grow more confident in yourself, you’ll get different kinds of objections.


In the beginning, you might get tests from women to check if you truly are as confident as you appear to be.


But once your confidence is real, you’ll get tests to make sure you’re not just out to take advantage of them or hurt them.


The root cause of objections is a lack of trust.


Once she trusts you, her objections will disappear.


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