How To Get A Girlfriend: A Step-by-Step Guide
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By the worlds #1 dating coach for Introverted Men - Nick Neeson.
“Evenings…Weekends… Holidays… Christmas…Valentine’s Day… These are the moments that being alone feels the worst!”
These were the words coming out of my client’s mouth. And I know for sure that many men feel the same way.
Do you sometimes wake up on the weekend and wonder how couples live their life? What do they do on a Sunday morning? How do they enjoy their free time together? How do they share life with each other?
I believe that finding your dream woman is one of the most, if not the most fulfilling achievement you can have in life.
Just imagine.
What would your life look like if your dream woman was part of it? How would you feel? What would your evenings, weekends, and holidays look like if you could share them with your soulmate?
What Would Your Life Look Like If Your Dream Woman Was Part Of It?
Most single men would give up anything for that. Yet many of them don’t have a clue how to get a girlfriend. The good news is that you can learn it, and it’s much easier than you might think, if you do it the right way.
In this article, I’d like to talk about that. I’d like to share with you what it really takes to get a girlfriend, so you don’t waste your time on things that don’t work. That’s my objective. I’d like to cut through all the BS out there and show you what really works for smart introverted men.
So, let’s take the bull by the horns…
Why is this article on how to get a girlfriend different?
This Article Is Dramatically Different From The Typical Dating Advice You Find Online
The thing is this: it’s not easy to teach you how to get a girlfriend in just one post.
That’s because there is a lot of ground to be covered.
And depending on your strengths and weaknesses, you’ll need more tailored and specific advice.
You’ll find many articles giving advice on this subject on the Internet. But most of them, if not all of them, only give you “generic” advice. These articles are typically random lists of 10 tips or 5 tricks.
Some articles are longer, some are shorter. But what they all have in common is that they are not specific enough to apply to your unique situation.
Also, all the articles out there are focused on extroverts. When you read them, as an introvert, you’ll feel like you have to be someone you are not.
Plus, they don’t cover the full spectrum of everything that you need.
They are GENERIC and INCOMPLETE.
To be honest, this article is not so different, in a sense. I won’t be able to give you tailored specifics either. That would be impossible, since we’ve never talked.
But you can be sure of ONE thing:
This article is focused on Smart, Introverted Men.
This Article Is Focused On Smart, Introverted Men. You'll Learn Girlfriend-Getting Strategies That Work For Introverts.
We want you to stay true to yourself. You’ll also get free tools and resources to help you customize everything you learn to fit your unique situation and personality.
And what I will also do is give you the COMPLETE overview of what you need to cover so you can get a girlfriend. Depending on your needs, you can zoom in to one or more of the topics by clicking on the links for extra information.
And last but not least, the biggest problem that men have is that there is an overload of information out there. Not just a lot of information, but a lot of conflicting information. Men are confused and overwhelmed by this.
There’s Too Much Conflicting Information On The Internet. This Creates Confusion And Overwhelm.
I know that this is probably not going to be the only article that you will read, and that’s fine. I know you’ll go through a learning journey. I’d like to make that journey as short and fun as possible for you.
I want to help you solve the biggest issue when it comes to learning how to get a girlfriend: confusion and feeling overwhelmed.
So, briefly, there are four ways in which this article is really different.
1. For Introverted Men Only: this article teaches smart, introverted men how to get a girlfriend NATURALLY, without having to be someone they are not.
2. Completeness: You'll get a complete overview of everything you need to learn so you can get a girlfriend fast.
3. Clarity: You’ll get the knowledge to help you cut through the BS and avoid confusion and feeling overwhelmed. You’ll learn how to select information, along with what sources to trust and what sources to distrust.
4. Customization: You’ll get a ABSOLUTELY FREE coaching session to help you customize the advice to your personality, your situation, and your ideal woman. Read this VIP Only letter to find out my SECRET reason for doing this.
Really, this article is the closest thing you will ever have to a North Star in dating.
It allows you to be sure you’re always going in the right direction. Learning the right stuff. Doing the right stuff. Taking the right action.
I’m confident you’ll really enjoy the FREE coaching session, because it will shorten your time to RESULTS and make your journey FUN.
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Cool?
Okay!
Let’s start.
I’ll begin by sharing the three most common mistakes guys make when learning how to get a girlfriend.
After that, you’ll discover the only three things you’ll ever need to cover in order to find, get, and keep your most amazing woman in the world.
I know three doesn’t sound like much, but you’ll see that those three areas cover everything.
Let’s hit it off with the most common mistakes first.
How To Get A Girlfriend: The Three Most Common Mistakes
Don't Just Blindly Believe The Dating Advice You Find On The Internet. It Will Kill Your Chances Of Getting A Quality Girlfriend.
1. Learning methods that are NOT made for introverts.
Most methods out there are focused on extroverts. They will tell you to approach thousands of women, go to loud chaotic night clubs, become an entertainer, be the life of the party, and make superficial small talk with everyone that comes within five feet of you all day long.
Superficial Small Talk Pick Up Artist That Makes Your Hair Stand On End.
As an introvert, the mere thought of this makes your hair stand on end. And for a good reason: it’s just not you!
And when you learn dating methods and skills that are not aligned with your personality, you won’t only feel like you’re betraying yourself, but they also won’t work.
It “might” work to get a woman in bed, and even that will be difficult because she will sense something is off. She’ll feel that you are being incongruent.
But let’s say in some rare cases you manage to pull it off. You manage to behave like somebody you’re not, and she agrees to sleep with you. How long do you think it will take her before she finds out and dumps you?
Not long at all!
If You Are An Introvert, Don't Learn Methods From Extroverts. It Will Attract Women That Fall For Extroverts. When They Later Find Out That's Not You, They Will Dump You In The Blink Of An Eye.
So, it’s best to learn methods that are adapted to your introverted nature. But it goes deeper than that. Being introverted is just one aspect of your personality.
You have a combination of different character traits that make you unique. The problem is that there are a gazillion dating information products out there, and it’s extremely time-consuming to check them out and find the right one for you.
Personal coaching is probably the best way to make sure your dating method and skills are adapted to your personality.
If you’d like a absolutely FREE custom-made dating plan that is based on YOUR personality and the kind of women YOU want, read this exclusive time-sensitive letter now while it’s still available.
2. Learning from the wrong sources
Always Check The Source Before You Read A Dating Advice Article. Is The Author A Dating Coach Specialized In Helping Introverted Men?
WikiHow and online magazines:
When men want to learn how to get a girlfriend, most of them open their Internet browser and type in “how to get a girlfriend”. Next, they click on sites they “think” they can trust, like wikiHow, eHow, or sites from popular magazines.Here’s the problem with this.
People can’t give you that which they don’t have.
Let’s use a simple analogy to explain this. If you ask me for pancakes and I don’t have pancakes, then I simply can’t give you pancakes. Even with the best intentions, I can’t give you what I don’t have.
Most of the sites like the ones I mentioned have really good intentions, and I’m sure they are run by good people. However, they can have the best intentions in the world, but they still can’t give you what they don’t have.
Here’s the issue: most of the articles on the Internet and in magazines are written by people who are not professionals on the topics they write about.
A magazine decides to do a column on “10 ways to get a girlfriend” because they think the readers will like it. And what happens next?
The person that writes the article is the same person who wrote an article on how to grow roses in your garden the previous week! Do you see how this completely screws up your chances of getting a girlfriend? How can you be a specialist one week in gardening, the next week in dating, the next week in car engines, and so on?
Always look at the source. Is this person who wrote the article a real dating coach? Does this person have a business in the dating industry? Does the author specialize in helping introverted men become successful with women? And if there is no author listed at all, you don’t know the source at all. You can’t trust that. Ever!
Example Of An Article You Can't Trust. The Author is "eHarmony Staff". Who On The Staff Wrote This? You Don't Know. Is The Author A Professional Dating Coach? You Don't Know.
That being said, I’m not saying popular magazines have incompetent authors. I’m only saying that you should always look for the name of the author. If there is no name, then don’t trust the advice. If there is a name, make sure to Google it to see if it’s a specialized dating coach.
So before you even read an article, scroll down, look to see if the author’s name is there, and run a check on him or her. Only if everything checks out should you read the article. It will save you TONS of time, pain, and frustration.
WikiHow and eHow are the worst of all. The reason for this is simple: their articles don’t reference the authors, so you really have no clue who wrote it.
I’ve read many of their articles on the topic of dating. Frankly, I have to say that their advice is just plain lame. It’s the fastest and best way to stay single and lonely for the rest of your life.
Don’t take advice from women on how to date them.
If the article is written by a woman, you are probably better off discarding it. Why? Well… because women won’t tell you what they really want. The reason for this is simple. The real answer to the question “What do women want?” is a politically incorrect answer.
The Answer To The Question "What Do Women Want" Is Politically Incorrect. Therefore Women Will (Almost) Always Give You Bad Dating Advice.
Layers of cultural programming by media and religion have made it practically impossible for women to express what they really want. At least not without being punished by society.
And this programming goes so deep that I believe women don’t even consciously know what they want in a man anymore. But they do know unconsciously.
Let me give you an example.
When you ask women what kind of guy they want, what do they usually say? They mostly say they want a ‘nice guy’.
But what kind of guy are they actually dating?
They usually date the bad boy, or a good guy with an “edge”. But almost never the nice guy. And if they do date a nice guy, they will dump him fast, or cheat on him.
Women "SAY" They Want A Nice Guy. But They Usually Date The Bad Boy, Or Good Guy With An Edge.
Do you see how there is a difference between what women say they want, and what they really want?
Also, what do you think a woman would say in public?
A) I’d like a nice guy.
B) I’d like a guy that excites me and arouses me sexually.
Of course they’ll say “A” because it’s politically correct. She doesn’t want to risk social punishment or a damaged reputation.
To avoid being misled, here’s a golden rule that will help you learn how to get a girlfriend:
Don’t listen to what women say they want in a man. Look at who they are sleeping with instead.
Follow this rule and it will help you cut through the clutter of confusing information out there. I promise you! It will always show you the TRUTH.
Information overload, bad information, confusion, and feeling overwhelmed is the number-one reason why men don’t learn how to get a girlfriend. Therefore, it’s critical that you filter out the right information from the wrong. It’ll save you tons of pain and wasted time.
3. Learning methods that are not adapted to getting a girlfriend
Most of the dating products out there are products that are focused on getting women in bed as fast as possible. They are not suited to getting a girlfriend. In fact, there are almost no products out there that really teach you how to get a girlfriend.
Most Dating Methods Don't Work To Get Quality Women To Become Your Girlfriend. That's Because They Use Manipulation, Deception and Lies.
They might work for seducing women in clubs, or even bedding women during the day. But the focus is on bedding them fast. And the tactics, skills, and mindsets laid out by these sites are focused on getting the easy and psychologically damaged women—not the kind you want to have as your girlfriend.
You want a quality girlfriend, one that is loyal and a good woman. Those methods do not work on quality women.
So how do you tell the good products from the bad?
•Avoid every program that has the word PUA in it (pick-up artist).
•Avoid every program that uses PUA techniques.
•Avoid any program where the name of the creator is associated in any way with the acronym PUA.
•Avoid all programs that use flashy techniques. If you watch YouTube videos and you see flashy stuff happening, like a man spinning a woman on the street, or a woman giggling TOO hard and giving a guy her phone number, run away.
You see, first of all, you don’t want a girlfriend that falls for that kind of BS.
And second of all, here’s a big secret.
It’s very easy to get a woman’s number.
But what they don’t tell you is that all those numbers that you see guys collect, they lead to “nothing”.
The women flake on them. You don’t have to believe me if you don’t want to. You’ll find out pretty quickly by yourself if you try that stuff.
Avoid Every Pick-up Artist (PUA) Method. You'll NEVER Get A "QUALITY" Girlfriend With That Stuff.
Instead, look for methods that normal, cool, and mature men use—you know, then men that you want to be like.
Why?
Because quality women look for maturity in men. Maturity does not mean that you’re boring.
So there you go, my friend—you just learned the three biggest mistakes men make when learning how to get a girlfriend.
Now that we’ve covered the three biggest mistakes, let’s have a look at the areas you need to be good at in order to get a girlfriend.
If you want to learn how to get a girlfriend you need to develop three things, and three things only:
The Right Value. The Right Strategy. The Right Execution.
These really are the only three things you need to focus on.
Let’s start with the right value.
How To Get A Girlfriend: The Right Value
Having the right value is not about the car you drive or how much money you make. It’s about what kind of a man you are. It’s about your authentic masculine value.
Being A High Value Man Isn't About How Much Money You Make. It's About Your Authentic Masculine Value.
Let’s look at the different elements that make you valuable in the eyes of women.
Are you a no-brainer?
Look at it from a woman’s point of view. With all the options that they have, would you be a no-brainer for them? Being a no-brainer means you have three key attributes:•Powers
•Presentation
•Personality
Powers.
Women Are Attracted To Talent. Show Her Your Skills and Watch Her Attraction Grow.
The problem is this: women need to see your skills in action. That’s not always easy to arrange. Luckily, there is a skill set you can show women any time. And that skill set is… dating skills!
Yes, you read that right. Being good at dating skills will make women attracted to you. And if you’re not good at dating, don’t worry my friend. I’m about to hand you a life-changing SOLUTION to this situation, and I mean RIGHT NOW.
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Presentation
Presentation is the way you present yourself. It’s more than your looks—it’s your body language, the way you dress, your efforts at grooming, your reputation. It’s also your hygiene and how healthy you look.
Dressing Well, Grooming, And Having Confident Body Language Makes You Instantly More Attractive.
Personality.
Personality is made up by your character traits. Do you have high-value masculine character traits like confidence, carefreeness, an abundance mindset, self-love, feeling comfortable in your own skin, etc.? Once you start working on these masculine personality traits, you’ll attract women in droves.
Women Are Attracted To Men With Strong Personalities.
The concept of powers, personality, and presentation is not easy to explain in a few sentences. But it’s crucial that you understand it and master it.
And if you’re looking for a dating approach that automatically leverages your unique powers, your unique personality and your unique presentation, then you need to read this exclusive and time-sensitive letter.
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Let’s dive a bit deeper in your personality, character, and mindsets.
Do you have stability?
Getting a girlfriend means committing, and that requires stability.Do you have goals? Do you have a plan for your future? Are you over any issues with your ex-girlfriend?
If not, fix these things first. Women can tell from a distance if a man is stable or if he has issues in this area.
Getting A Girlfriend Means Committing, And That Requires Stability.
Are you ready to commit?
Do you know your preferences? Meaning, do you know what kind of looks, personality, and character traits you prefer? Committing to a woman means saying no to others. Therefore, it’s important that you know what you prefer, what you like and dislike.
When you know what you prefer, you’ll be ready to commit once you find it. You don’t want to be wondering if there is more, or if there is someone better out there for you.
If you don’t know your preferences yet, I suggest you start by dating many women to find out what you like and dislike in a potential partner.
Do you suffer from misogyny (hatred of women)?
Do you like and respect women? Some men have tried almost everything and still can’t get a girlfriend. This is because many of them subconsciously hate women.Women sense this and it ruins all their chances. No matter how good their game is, they won’t be able to find a quality girlfriend. So if that’s the case for you, you need to fix it ASAP.
You see, here’s the thing—I believe we attract the kind of people we are ready for.
We attract what we are.
If you unconsciously hate women, you’ll only attract psychologically damaged women, which is not what you want for a long-term relationship. If you have any of these issues, then the best thing to do is to get personal coaching
Mr. Right vs Mr. Right-Now.
There are basically only two different mindsets when it comes to dating women: Mr. Right and Mr. Right-Now. Both are extremely effective if they are used for the right objective. Consequently, both are extremely ineffective when used for the wrong objectives.Let’s explore the difference between the two mindsets and learn when to use what mindset. The Mr. Right-Now mindset is very effective when you just want to have sex with lots of different women. There’s nothing wrong with this mindset. It can be a fun way of living.
Mr. Right-Now Is All About Fast Escalation
However, when you apply the mindset of Mr. Right-Now to get a girlfriend, it definitely won’t work.
Here’s why.
1. The mindset of Mr. Right-Now is all about pulling fast, escalating fast, and taking women to bed as fast as possible. And it works! It works because:
2. It attracts more promiscuous women, which probably are not the kind of women that are loyal girlfriend material.
It sometimes works on good girls too. You see, even good high-quality women can have a one-night stand or sex on the first date. However, it’s more of an exception than the rule. But it can happen, and there’s nothing wrong with that.
The problem is this: good quality women DON’T have the habit of doing that. And when you have a Mr. Right-Now attitude and you try to sleep with them on the first date, one of two things will happen.
Most of the time they will NOT sleep with you. And after you’ve tried, they won’t want to see you anymore. That’s because they are looking to find Mr. Right, not Mr. Right Now.
The other possibility is that they allow it to happen, but they won’t become your girlfriend anyway. The reason for this is because they feel guilty afterwards. Also, they don’t want to enter into a long-term relationship with a guy who potentially sees them as “easy”.
So Mr. Right-Now is good at getting fast sex with many different women, and it works.
IMPORTANT: Being Mr. Right-Now does not mean using manipulative techniques, PUA techniques, or any other lies. Being Mr. Right-Now does not mean going for psychologically damaged women.
Mr. Right-Now is just a mindset. And like almost everything in life, there’s a good way to go about it and a bad way to go about it.
But if you want to get a girlfriend, you’ll want to be Mr. Right and take things more slowly, but not too slow.
Mr. Right Is The Best Mindset To Attract Girlfriend Material
IMPORTANT: Being Mr. Right DOES NOT MEAN being a “nice guy”.
There’s a big difference between the nice guy and Mr. Right.
The nice guy is a pushover. He puts women on a pedestal. He doesn’t have his own opinions. He lets women take the lead. He behaves like her emotional tampon. Basically, he acts like a wimp.
Mr. Right, on the other hand, has a lot of the same characteristics as the bad boy.
He knows his value. He has his own opinions. He leads. He doesn’t put her on a pedestal. He doesn’t take her shit. He’s a challenge. Etc.
The difference between Mr. Right and the bad boy is that Mr. Right has good values, he respects women, and he DOES NOT run away from his problems.
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Alright, now that we’ve covered what it means to have the right value as a man, let’s zoom in on the right strategies to get a girlfriend.
How To Get A Girlfriend: The Right Strategies
Go for the right kind of woman
We’ve talked about this before. If you want fast sex, you go for a certain kind of woman. When you want a loyal girlfriend, you go for another kind of woman.
When you want fast sex, you go for the bad girl. When you want a loyal girlfriend, you go for the good girl.
Therefore, it’s crucial to know how to filter the good girls from the bad girls. Here’s some ways to do it. When you’re on a date, casually slip in questions like the ones below. Be careful not to fire them off all at once or too soon.
Ask her about her previous relationships.
If she speaks negatively about all or most of her exes, chances are she’s not the kind of woman that you want.
This is either because a) she falls for the wrong kind of man or b) she falls for the right kind of guys, but somewhere in the relationship she messes it up and blames them for it.
Either way, a woman who complains about all of her exes is not girlfriend material.
A quality woman will say her ex is a great guy, but they just were not compatible anymore. And she’ll say that she wishes him the best of luck.
Ask her if she ever cheated on a boyfriend.
If she did, chances are good that she’ll do it again. It doesn’t matter what her excuse is. Even if he cheated on her first, she could just break up with him instead of cheating on him. See what I mean?
If she ever cheated on any of her exes, I would strongly advise against making her your girlfriend. You can have fun with her if you want, but don’t make her your GF.
Ask her about the relationship between her parents.
If her mother treats her father badly, there’s a big chance she will do the same to you. Women learn how to treat a man from watching their mother. This is unconscious learned behavior.
Of course, if she says her mother treats her father badly and she absolutely can’t stand it, and she left the house because of her mother, then it’s different.
Ask her about her relationship with her father.
If she has a bad relationship with her father, that’s not a good sign either. You see, women learn how to treat a man from their mother, but they learn how to have a relationship with a man from their father.
So if she has a cold, distant relationship with her father, chances are she’ll have a cold, distant relationship with her man too.
Know your criteria
Know What You Want
We talked about this before, but let’s make it more specific. It’s crucial that you know four things.
1.Your likes
2.Your must-have deal-breaker.
3.Your dislike
4.Your dislike deal-breakers
Knowing these four things will help you find your dream woman easily. During your dates, you’ll observe her behavior and ask her qualifying questions to find out if she matches your criteria. For example, if you don’t like women that smoke, just ask her: “Do you smoke?”
This provides an extra advantage. When you ask women qualifying questions, they become more attracted to you. This is because it positions you as someone with options.
Men With Options Are Picky
You see, most men have no criteria when it comes to women. They just want a girlfriend, and it doesn’t matter what kind of personality she has. They assume that if they are not picky they’ll have better chances of getting a girlfriend. Ironically, the opposite is true.
Here’s why.
When you are NOT picky, it signals to her that you have NO options. It makes you look desperate. Women don’t want to date desperate men. On the other hand, when you have standards it shows women that you have options.
It shows that you have been pre-selected by other women, and pre-selection is one of the most powerful attraction triggers that exists. Pre-selection means that women will find men attractive if other women find him attractive.
This pre-selection stuff is SO POWERFUL that it really, ABSOLUTELY, WITHOUT A SHADOW OF A DOUBT outcompetes looks, money, and fame.
And if you would like to learn more on how to use pre-selection to ATTRACT your own PERFECT TEN and KEEP HER, than I can build you a customized dating plan to do just that. Read this EXCLUSIVE letter to learn more while it’s still available.
Once you know the kind of woman you want, you need to…
Frequent the kind of places that your ideal woman typically would be at.
Go To The Right Places
If you want to catch carp, then go fish at a lake where there are many carp.
The same goes for finding your ideal woman.
If you like intelligent women who like to read, go hang out at bookshops more often.
Probably the worst place to find a good girlfriend is at bars and clubs. Most women that go to bars and clubs are party women, and they usually don’t make for good, loyal girlfriends.
If you are using a Mr. Right-Now approach and want to have fast sex with many different women, then clubs are a great place to go.
But if you want a committed girlfriend, it’s not a good idea.
Now, that doesn’t mean there are no good girls in clubs. But generally, there are much more party girls at clubs than good girls. And the good girls that are there are probably in the party phase of their life. That means they’re not ready for a committed relationship yet.
Probably The Worst Place To Find Good Girlfriend Material
There is one exception to this: if you are a party guy yourself and you want to have a girlfriend that will party with you every weekend, then clubs are a good option.
Oh, and even if you do find a good girl in a club, just the fact that you met her in a club will probably hinder your chances of making her your girlfriend.
Most women don’t want a committed relationship with men they meet at clubs. They don’t like the idea of telling friends and family they met their Prince Charming at a club. They don’t think it’s a soulmate kind of thing.
Therefore...
Approach her in Serendipity Venues
Did you know that there are certain venues where women daydream about meeting Mr. Right? Did you know that by just approaching them in those venues you immediately maximize your chances of making them your girlfriend?
Meeting A Woman In A Serendipity Venue Maximizes Your Chances Of Making Her Your Girlfriend.
That’s right—the venue where you choose to approach a woman has a profound impact on how she will look at the relationship. Almost all women want to meet a man like they see it happening in romantic movies.
Here are three serendipity venues where you can meet women. 1.At the grocery store 2.At a coffee shop 3.In a bookstore
These three locations are typical locations where women find their Prince Charming in romantic comedies. Women daydream about those scenarios happening to them. And if you really want to make it easy for yourself…
Approach her in places where you feel great.
We all have places where we feel great, and we all have places where we don’t feel so great. When you approach women in these places, not only will it be easier for you because you will be in a great mood, but women that like to go to those places will probably be a better match for you.
People who think the same and value the same things tend to go to the same places.
Of course, not all women in those places will be your ideal match, but the chances are much higher than if you went to places you dislike.
Here’s a great exercise to arrange your life so that it becomes inevitable that you will meet tons of women that match your ideal woman profile.
Follow these steps:
1.Make a list of all the places you like to go to.
2.Make a list of all the places you would like to go to.
3.Make a list of all the places your dream woman probably frequents.
4.Cross-map the places your dream woman would go to with the places you go to and the places you would like to go to.
Okay. Now that you have the right strategy down, it’s time for the right execution.
How To Get A Girlfriend: The Right Execution
Learn how to approach women in different locations.
When you see a woman that you really like, you need to be ready, willing and able to approach her. There is nothing more frustrating than seeing your ideal type of woman and doing nothing. You’ll be thinking about it for the rest of the day or week, and kicking yourself in the butt because you didn’t talk to her.Therefore, it’s crucial that you learn how to start interactions and get women’s contact details no matter where you are: the street, a coffee shop, deze mag wega bar, a book shop, etc.
Learn To Approach Women In Different Venues
Once you’ve mapped the different places that you go to and your dream woman will probably go to, then it’s easy to learn a dating method and skills tailored to those venues.
You see, most men go about this completely wrong. They just read some dating advice on the Internet or worse, they buy dating products without focusing on where they will find their dream woman.
Because of that, they experience a lot of pain and lose A LOT of time, not to mention money! Plus, they don’t get results because the method is not adapted to the venue.
If you would like a FREE customized dating plan with methods and techniques tailored to the venues that YOU like to go to, and that is GUARANTEED to work in the places YOUR PERFECT TEN frequently visits, read this letter right now.
Learn To Recognize Attraction Signals
Approach Invitations = Rejection-Free Approaching
How would you like to get many more dates, so you have a higher chance of finding your dream woman, by approaching fewer women and without EVER getting rejected.
You see, most dating advice companies will tell you to approach a ton of women so you learn the approach mechanism. There are many problems with this.
First, it’s bad for your self-confidence because you’ll get a lot of rejections. Second, if you SPAM approach all the women in a venue, you’ll not only get rejected a lot, but you’ll also get a bad reputation.
Let’s say you like to go to the gym, and you want a girlfriend who likes to works out too. The gym would be a good place to find a girlfriend. (And if you do the exercise we talked about, you’ll quickly find out that there are many other places where you could also find women that like to work out).
But let’s suppose you approach all the women in the gym, and get rejected by just a few of them. That would be what we call social suicide. The girls will talk to each other and you will be toasted.
Therefore, it’s important to be able to recognize which women are open to talking to you and are attracted to you. You see, it doesn’t matter what you look like or what you think of yourself—every man is some woman’s type. The trick is being able to recognize them. They will show you their attraction by giving off signs.
We call them Attraction Signals and Conversation Invitations.
Here are three signs that indicate a woman wants you to approach her:
•She gives you proximity. This means that she starts hovering around where you are standing. Maybe you’ve noticed this behavior before, but you probably never consciously paid attention to it. When women are attracted to a man, they unconsciously move closer to him. They do this because they want to make it easy for you to start a conversation with them.
•She makes eye contact with you.
•She smiles at you.
Now, you might think that she’s just being polite. But make no mistake: 99% of women WON’T smile at you if they are not attracted to you (unless they already know you, of course).
It’s their way of inviting you to talk to them. They’re showing you that if you approached them, they would be open to it. It’s a form of encouragement.
When you only approach women who give you approach invitations, you won’t get rejected. Plus, they will already be attracted to you. This makes it much easier to date them and turn them into your girlfriend.
Learn the human courtship process
Just like animals, we humans have a mating dance too, and it’s crucial that you learn it.
There are seven steps in the human courtship process:
1.Attract attention
2.Start a conversation
3.Have a conversation
4.Physical escalation
5.Logistical escalation
6.Intimacy & sex
7.Committed relationship
Learn the skills to execute every step of the courtship process
The human courtship process is universal, which is a good thing. However, the steps are too high-level to be able to execute them correctly.
That means you need specific methods (how too’s) and skills to execute each step of the process.
For example: Starting a conversation is a step in the process. However, there are many ways to start conversations. You might start a conversation in a direct or indirect way. And within the method you choose, there are different skills you need to master.
For example, if you use an indirect method you’ll need to develop your social skills some more.
The choice of the method and skills needed are based on the venue and situation you are in.
Let’s take the example of the gym again.
You wouldn’t walk up to a woman in the gym and start a conversation by complimenting her looks (direct method). You would risk getting a negative reaction in a place where everybody knows you. Therefore, an indirect method would be better suited to this situation.
The same goes for at work. You wouldn’t go direct there either. You would most likely go indirect.
So, the methods to execute the process are dependent on the venue. But they also depend on your personality and the kind of woman you want to attract.
For example, you wouldn’t approach a rocker chick the same way as you would approach a girl-next-door type. Because you are an introvert, a loud, extroverted style won’t work for you. You’re much better off using a more chill approach.
To quickly recap this:
The human courtship process is UNIVERSAL, but the methods and skills to execute the process are NOT universal, they are almost INFINITE.
These methods and skills need to be tailored to THREE THINGS:
1.Your personality
2.The venue
3.The kind of woman that you want
If You Want Results, You Need To Learn Dating Skills Tailored To Your Personality, Your Kind Of Woman, And The Venues You Go To.
If you do the Ideal Woman exercise & the Make Meeting Your Dream Woman Inevitable exercise, you will get clarity on what you want and the venues you need to go to.
That gives you a great starting point for selecting dating methods and skills to learn. However, choosing the best methods and skills by yourself is VERY difficult if you’re not experienced.
And that’s very sad, because it’s crucial to your dating success.
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Learn the Triad of Intimacy
Trigger These Three Emotions In Her, And She'll Beg You To Become Your Girlfriend.
We are almost there. But there is still one thing left to learn. You will only be able to turn a woman into your girlfriend if you can trigger three specific emotions in her.
They are:
•Attraction
•Connection
•Arousal
We call them the triad of intimacy. Most introverted men make the mistake of just focusing on one emotion. And what do you think that emotion is?
CONNECTION.
As an introvert, it’s easy for you to listen to people and connect with them. This is a good thing, and it’s a tremendous strength when it comes to wooing the ladies.
However, your strength WILL become your weakness if you use too much of it. You see, most introverted men focus ONLY on being the empathetic listener and connecting with women. And that is a recipe for disaster.
If you focus on JUST connecting with her without making her feel attraction, then you are GUARANTEED to end up in the friend zone.
Connection Without Attraction or Arousal = Friend Zone
On the other hand…
If you focus only on attraction, then you’ll be seen as superficial.
And…
If you focus only on arousal, then you’ll be seen as a player.
When a woman sees you as just a friend, superficial, or a player, it will destroy your chances of getting her.
But if what she feels for you is ATTRACTION + CONNECTION + AROUSAL, then you’ve got yourself a girlfriend.
Therefore, it’s critical that you learn the strategies, tactics, and mindsets to make women feel the triad of intimacy.
Voila! You know everything you need to get you on the path to success with women.
Conclusion.
As an introverted man, you’ll want to make sure you read dating advice that is tailored to introverts.Sadly, 99% of all dating advice is focused on extroverts, or it teaches PUA and bad-guy approaches.
If you want learn how to get a girlfriend, you need to develop the right value, the right strategies, and the right execution.
This guide is made for introverted men. Use it as your reference point to determine what skills you need to develop, and then DO IT. TAKE ACTION!
Don’t look at getting a girlfriend as some bag of tricks you’ll learn quickly.
The truth is, it will take some time to develop yourself. But you know what? That self-development journey is what it’s all about. Ultimately, getting better with women is all about developing yourself. So enjoy the ride, my friend.
And one last thing—when you develop yourself, make sure that you align the skills you learn with who you are as a person and with the way you present yourself. In other words, align and work on your personality, powers, and presentation.
If you don’t align them, you will be incongruent and women can smell that from a mile away. But if you do align them, you’ll attract women like a rock star!
And ultimately you’ll find, get, and keep your most amazing woman in the world.
Look, you’ve read this whole article. It was a long one. You’re still reading. And you know this is the only way to get a girlfriend and keep her.
And you also know YOU CAN DO IT!
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