If you're looking for subjects to talk about with a girl…this will be the only article you'll ever need to read.


Cause…


Not only am I going to give you the exact topics to talk about…


But…


I’m going to take it one step further and tell you “why” and “when” to talk about these topics.


Alright.


Let’s start with…

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How To Pick Subjects To Talk About With A Girl (If You Read Only One, Read This One)

When I was still figuring out this "women and dating stuff"… I didn't know what to talk about with girls.


And whenever I asked for advice about this... people would say…


“Oh... talk about music and pop culture.”


You’ve probably noticed this yourself.


Just google "subjects to talk about with a girl"…


And you'll find tons of “101 gazillion things to talk about with women” articles.


Now…


I don’t know about you… but for me… that never worked.


As an introverted man… whenever I get a listicle like that… my brain instantly goes…


“Well… ‘when’ do I talk about this subject… and ‘when’ do I talk about that other subject?”


“Is there a sequence?”


“How do I glue everything together?”


It’s only after I discovered the following things… that I started to get it.


Number one.


The topics you talk about with girls differ based on the step of the dating process you’re in.


For example.


What you talk about with a woman you just met in the grocery store is different from what you talk about when you’re on a date with that same woman.


Number two.


The topics you talk about are also different based on your goals.


If you’re trying to attract a woman… you’ll talk about different things than if you try to build a deep bond with her.


And number three.


Understanding the “sequence” of topics and “why” to talk about them is fundamental.


You see…


When people give you a list of conversation topics without telling you “when” and “why” to use them…


It’s like showing you a list of ingredients to make pancakes without giving you the recipe.


If you don't know that you need to mix the eggs with the milk and the flour…


It doesn't matter if you know the ingredients.


You won’t be able to make pancakes.


And…


If you don’t understand “why” you need eggs… you’ll also run into problems.


Let’s say you get a recipe that says you must use 4 eggs.


Well…


Sometimes you’ll need to add a fifth one… regardless of what the recipe said.


Cause the purpose of eggs is to make your pancakes fluffier.


And maybe the eggs you bought were small-sized.


So…


If you use 4 small eggs… your pancakes won’t be as fluffy as they should be.


And if you don't know that the fluffiness comes from the eggs… you won’t know to add an extra one.


See what I mean?


It’s the same with subjects to talk about with girls.


You can read all the “101 gazillion topics to talk about with girls” articles you want…


If you don't know “when” and “why” to use these topics…


It won't matter!


You won’t get the girl.


Which is NOT what you want.


Some of my biggest breakthroughs came when I understood what topics to discuss…"when"… and “why."


So…


That’s what we’ll focus on in this article.


Let’s get started…

Subjects To Talk About With A Girl That Make Her “Want You” – The Lasagna Story

Couple of days ago... my girlfriend made a fantastic lasagna.


She's an excellent cook… but she never made one before.


So… she decided to give it a try.


And when the oven ringed… the masterpiece came out.


It looked DE-LI-CI-OUS!


My mouth started to water.


All I wanted to do… was eat it!


Why am I telling you this?


Well…


Cause it’s the same in dating.


One of the first things you want to do is to make women want you.


Cause once they want you…


It’s easy peasy to keep the conversation going.


So how do you make women want you?


Well…


By talking about subjects that "excite" them.


And no need to have 101 topics for this.


The only subjects you need to talk about are:

• Travel & Vacations
  
  
  
• Hobbies and Fun
  
  
  
• Food
  
  
  

That’s it.


That’s all you need.


Now…


Why are these great topics to make women want you?


Cause these are activities that they “love” doing.


It’s things that they “choose” to do.


If you talk about work and jobs… these are not things that most people consider exciting.


These are topics people see as things they “must” do.


Of course…


There are exceptions.


Some women love their job and consider it a hobby that pays them.


But…


Most won’t fall in that category.


They might like their job… but they’ll prefer to talk about the things they “choose” to do in life.


So…


By talking about fun… exciting things… aka things they “want”…


You get associated with these fun… exciting things… and they’ll see you as an exciting person.


A person they "want."


They’ll start to feel attraction for you…


But…


Creating attraction in women isn’t enough.


Remember the lasagna story earlier?


I wanted to eat that lasagna so much… but if I ate it instantly… I'd burn myself.


So…


I waited a bit.


And that's precisely what beautiful quality women do when it comes to guys.


When they feel attracted to a guy… they’ll wait a bit before they act on it.


Cause they know if they act too soon… they might get burned.


They prefer to first build a bond with the guy.


Cause attraction isn't enough for quality women…


They also want a deep connection.


This brings us to…

Subjects To Talk About With A Girl That Create A Deep Bond – The Scouts Story

A couple of weeks ago…


I picked up my kids from the scouts.


And when they got in the car… I could smell they made a campfire.


And it instantly catapulted me back in time… you know… when I was a scout.


The smell of the campfire acted as an anchor to my childhood memories and feelings.


So…


On the way home… we bonded over the topic of campfires.


My point…


If you want to bond with someone… you do it by talking about topics that are anchored to deep feelings (subjects they'd only discuss with people they have a deep connection with)


Here are the most important ones:

• Emotions
  
  
  
• Motivations
  
  
  
• Character traits
  
  
  
• Childhood memories
  
  
  
• Secrets
  
  
  
• Embarrassing moments in life
  
  
  
• Dreams and ambitions
  
  
  

If a woman discusses these topics with you… she'll feel a deep connection with you.


But…


You can’t just walk up to a woman and ask her…


"So tell me about your first day in school."


Cause that would be creepy.


You went for deep rapport way too fast.


Instead…


You want to build up the levels of rapport.


And there are two levels.


Social rapport and deep rapport.


The topics you talk about during social rapport are the same topics that will make her "want you."


So that makes it pretty simple.


These topics are:

• Travel & Vacation
  
  
  
• Hobbies and Fun
  
  
  
• Food
  
  
  

They are socially acceptable to talk about with someone you just met.


And they are perfect to position yourself as an exciting guy.


Once you have social rapport (and attraction) …


You can now go for deep rapport.


And the way you do that is by taking the lighter rapport topics and then bridging those into character traits… emotions… and motivations.


For example…


Let’s say she tells you that she moved over to the states from Germany.


You might tell her…


“You must be a bit of an adventurer and a risktaker to move to another country like that.”


See what I’m doing?


I'm now talking about her character traits.


Being adventurous and risk-taking are character traits.


Guess who she talks to about these things?


Yep…


People she’s known for a long time.


People she has a deep connection with.


So…


By talking about these subjects… she now positions you in the same category.


I can’t remember how often women told me… after just 30 minutes of conversation…


“It feels like I’ve known you my whole life."


Once you’ve made multiple bridges from social rapport topics to character traits… emotions… and motivations…


You can now switch to talking about:

• Her past
  
  
  
• Her family
  
  
  
• Her dreams and ambitions...
  
  
  
• Her secrets
  
  
  
• Her most embarrassing moments in life
  
  
  
• Her most exciting moments in life
  
  
  
• Her passions
  
  
  

Cause that’s now appropriate!


And once you’ve talked about all these topics… you’ll have a SUPER deep connection with her.


So…


What’s next?


Well…


At this point… she's attracted to you… and she feels a deep bond with you.


The only thing you need to do now is… turn her on.


And that’s what we’ll cover in the next point.

Subjects To Talk About With A Girl To Arouse Her – I Think Of You In The Shower Every day!

Imagine that blonde bombshell you’ve had your eye on for a while…


Or that busty brunette if you’re more into brunettes…


Telling you these exact words!


How awesome would that be?


Pretty awesome... right?


Well…


Here’s how to do it!


True story... btw.


So…


Once upon a time… I met this hot blonde.


We were talking and making fun.


And for god knows what reason the subject of showers came up.


So…


I jokingly told her…


“You will see… the next time you take a shower…and you take that shower head in your hand…I’ll pop into your mind…and the more you try to resist it…the more you’ll think of me!”


Next time I saw her…


She told me: "You a-hole… I'm thinking about you in the shower every day now!”


I didn’t even get what she was talking about at first.


Cause I forgot what happened.


So I asked her... “and why is that?”


She said... “Every time I take the damn showerhead in my hands... I have to think about what you told me last time."


And she said it with an aroused flush in her face.


Moral of the story?


If you want to arouse women…


The only thing you need to do is talk about stimulating subjects.


The more both of you talk about these topics…


The more she'll become aroused.


So…


What topics should you talk about to turn her on?


There are only two.


The first is “sensual” topics.


For example... her first kiss... massages... etc.


The second is "sexual topics."


For example…


Her favorite position… the most exciting place she had sex… when she lost her virginity… sexual fantasies… etc.


And of course…


You start by talking about the sensual topics…


And if she’s comfortable with that… you go for the sexual ones.


That’s all there is to it… my friend!


By now…


You know what topics to talk about to make her feel attraction… connection… and arousal for you.


And once she feels those three emotions for ya…


She’s yours!


And the great news is…


You don’t need 101 subjects to achieve this.


You only need the ones that create these three emotions.


And the topics I gave you… are more than enough for that!


Now…


Let’s see how this works out in different situations in which you’ll interact with women.

Subjects To Talk About With A Girl You Met During The Daytime (Shop, Street, Park, etc.)

When you meet a woman during the daytime…


And you want to get her number…


There are only three topics you need to talk about.


Location... occasion... receptiveness.


Here’s how that works.


After you stopped her…


The first thing you want to talk about is “locations."


Meaning…


Where she’s from… what her roots are… etc.


Which then might lead to talking about traveling (which is also a location topic).


Once you’ve talked about locations… you can now talk about the “occasion.”


In other words…


What brings her here at this time of the day.


That will naturally open the door for many other topics.


She might be on her way to work… on her way back from work… going to the gym… the doctor… shopping… visiting a friend… etc.


Whatever she says at that moment is appropriate to the "occasion" topic... and you can now talk about whatever she brought up.


After you’ve done that... you want to talk about the “receptiveness” topic.


Now…


Receptiveness is when you test if she’s receptive to going out with you.


And you can simply do that by asking if she’s married or if she has a boyfriend.


If she says she's single... you can now introduce yourself and suggest continuing the conversation another time.


Once she agrees on that... just swap phone numbers.


See how simple this is?


This method of location... occasion... receptiveness is the method I used myself and that we teach to our students that want to meet women during the daytime.


It works wonders...


And it takes just 3 minutes of conversation to get a phone number and a date.


No need to complicate things.


Keep’em simple.

Subjects To Talk About With A Girl You Met In Your Social Circle Or At A Lifestyle Venue (Hobby Club, Volunteering Event, Etc.)

When you meet a woman in one of these circumstances... there are three topics you want to talk about.


Locations...


Hobbies...


Leisure time.


Again...


Locations is where's she's from... where her roots are from... travel and vacations.


You want to keep it light and fun.


After you talked about locations... you can talk about hobbies and what she does for fun.


That will then nicely lead into other leisure time activities... like what she does on the weekends.


Notice in your social circle or environments you frequent a lot…


You don't ask if she's married or has a boyfriend.


Why?


Cause it’s too direct for these environments.


You’re telegraphing too much romantic interest.


When you meet women outside your social circle... that’s not a problem.


Cause…


If she’s taken... you don’t have to see her again.


But in your social circle...


That’s different!


If you ask that question a few times... you’ll be labeled “the desperate guy who is there just to meet gals."


And that’s not what you want.


Instead...


Talk about locations... hobbies... and leisure time.


Mainly hobbies and leisure time.


Because when you’re talking about the different cool things you’re doing...


You'll have a lot of opportunities to invite her to these activities.


For example.


Let’s say you told her that you’re learning to make pralines... and she says...


"Omg... I love pralines. That’s so cool!”


You could then say…


"Well... if you like pralines... you should definitely join one of our lessons sometime.”


If she says "yes"…


Boom!


You've got yourself a date.


You only need to pick a time and a day now.


See how simple this is?

Subjects To Talk About With A Girl You Met Online

Again...


Keep it fun and light.


Subjects that work well online are travel and vacation... food... hobbies... and fun activities.


And you can follow the exact same strategy as in the previous point.


Meaning…


Talk about these things and casually seed some date ideas around the ones she likes.


As soon as she reacts positively to one of these date ideas...


You can now set up the date.

Subjects To Talk About With A Girl You Met At A Bar, Club Or a Party

Same here.


Locations... hobbies... leisure time.


But you can also add "occasions”.


You see…


If you're talking to a woman and she's there with a group of friends.


You can ask her what the occasion is.


That’s an appropriate question.


Then…


You can transition into locations... hobbies... leisure time... seed some date ideas... set up a date... and swap numbers if she bites.

Subjects To Talk About With A Girl On A Date

Once you’re on a date...


You simply want to continue talking about subjects that create attraction... connection... and arousal.


And you start by talking about topics that create attraction and a light connection...


Meaning…

• Travel & Vacation
  
  
  
• Hobbies and Fun
  
  
  
• Food
  
  
  

Then you move on to talking about topics that create a deeper connection...


Like…

• Character traits... emotions... and motivations
  
  
  
• Her past
  
  
  
• Her family
  
  
  
• Her dreams and ambitions...
  
  
  
• Her secrets
  
  
  
• Her most embarrassing moments in life
  
  
  
• Her most exciting moments in life
  
  
  
• Her passions
  
  
  

And finally... you move on to topics that arouse her:

• Sensual topics
  
  
  
• Sexual topics
  
  
  

For a better understanding of this... read sections 2... 3... and 4 of this article.

Subjects To Talk About With A Girl When The Conversation Fizzles Out – The Fat Bitch Story

I ran a workshop a couple of months ago.


And during lunch break...


The group was having a friendly discussion.


But suddenly... the energy started to go down.


Until…


One of the women in the group started to gossip.


She said something about a chick that called another chick a “fat bitch”.


Suddenly...


The whole group... men... and women… got energized again.


“OMG... did she really say that? What happened?”


People wanted to know the details of the story.


Here’s my point…


Whenever you’re talking with a woman... and the conversation loses its energy... the best thing you can do is inject some gossip.


For example...


If there's a new American Idol season... you could ask her who her favorite is.


Do that and watch how the energy level will shoot through the roof.

Conclusion

The worst thing you can do is look for a list of 101 topics to talk about with a girl.


Cause you’ll learn a lot of “random” subjects.


It’s like giving you random ingredients for a cake without telling you the recipe.


Your cake will fail.


Plus...


101 topics is just too much to remember.


This article gave you the only conversations topics that matter and the formula and order to use them.


Btw…


The best thing you can do right now is to download this article... so you can use it to prepare your next interactions with women.


Have a great day...


Nick

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