How To Approach A Girl At The Gym: 4 Tips For Introverts

How To Be A Ladies Man: 5 Ways For Introverts

By the worlds #1 dating coach for Introverted Men - Nick Neeson.

If you want to discover how to make eye contact with a girl – especially if you’re more of an introvert…

This article will show you everything you need to know.

You’ll discover science-based eye contact flirting tricks…

As well as techniques used by Hollywood….

And some of the hottest celebrities on the planet….

To not only attract women…

But seduce THE WORLD!

And…

They work specifically well for introverted men…

I know…

Cause I’m an introvert myself… and I personally use these techniques.

Plus…

I’ve been coaching introverted men on their dating life for over 25+ years…

And I have yet to have the first guy tell me it doesn’t work!

So…

Let’s get started…

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Why Is Eye Contact With A Girl Important?

Well…

The eyes are the windows of the soul.

And when you're not able to make eye contact with a woman…

You’re hiding your soul from them.

Which means…

You come across as insecure and untrustworthy. Both of which are repulsive character traits.
She might think you’re not interested in her.
You’ll feel bad about yourself cause you can’t even do something as basic as keeping eye contact.

Now….

If you “do” know how to make eye contact…

You instantly appear more confident and trustworthy.
She knows you’re into her. Which in turn makes her more attracted to you (research has shown we feel more attracted to people when we know these people are attracted to us)
You feel like a badass… which makes you even more confident!

Eye Contact as A Sign Of Attraction

We tend to look at the things we feel attracted to.

It’s just the way it is.

You’ve probably noticed yourself…

When a beautiful woman walks past you…

Your instinct is to look.

Why?

Cause attraction is a pleasant feeling.

And we unconsciously want to get more of that feeling.

But… it goes further than that.

When we see an attractive woman…

And we don’t just look at her body…

But we also make eye contact…

It's a way of making "contact."

Hence… the word "contact" in "eye contact."

And why would we make contact with a stranger we just saw in a coffee shop?

Because we feel attracted to that stranger!

It’s the same with women.

The moment a woman makes eye contact with you…

She’s looking for “contact!”

No matter how little, or how quickly she glanced…

It means she’s interested in you!

Now…

That doesn’t mean she’ll date you.

That doesn’t mean she’ll sleep with you.

But…

It does mean she finds you attractive.

Now…

Of course, it could be accidental eye contact.

Yeah…

Sure.

That’s “possible."

BUT…

VERY UNLIKELY.

You see...

When a woman is not attracted to a guy…

She will avoid eye contact with the guy AT ALL COSTS!

Cause women know…

If they make eye contact…

The chances of guys approaching…

Increase massively!

And the last thing she wants is to be approached by a guy that she’s NOT into.

So…

If a woman looks at ya…

Even if it’s for a short peep.

You better take it as a sign of attraction.

And approach her.

But what if she’s not attracted after all?

Well…

The answer is simple.

If you don’t approach…

You always lose.

Cause if she was interested…

You just lost her.

And if she wasn’t interested…

At least you know for sure now.

You see?

The only way to really know if a woman is interested in you…

Is by approaching her!

All the rest is speculation.

Speaking of speculation…

Let’s talk about…

The Levels Of Eye Contact With A Girl And Why It’s Nothing But Useless Intellectual Masturbation

I recently stumbled upon an article in which the author described the levels of eye contact.

And I thought,…

“Great! Sounds interesting. Let’s read it!”

The article talked about 9 different levels of eye contact.

It was detailed and very well written.

In fact…

I wish my writing was as good as this person!

BUT…

The more I read…

The more I realized…

It was useless information.

Too technical in nature.

And NOT pragmatically applicable.

It’s like playing tennis (or any other sports).

You don’t need to know the 9 levels your muscles can react to stress.

In fact,…

If you think about this kind of stuff when you play a tennis game…

You’ll lose.

Cause you’ll be focused on technicalities that don’t matter.

While the other player focuses on the game.

It’s much better to focus on the game instead of these intellectually interesting things.

Cause that’s all this is – intellectual masturbation!

It’s the same with the levels of eye contact you can have with a woman.

If you think about all these details…

You won’t be focused on the girl.

Instead…

You’ll be in your head… trying to figure out…

“Which level of eye contact was that again?”

“And what did that mean again?”

“Did I see it right?”

I’ll describe the 9 levels of eye contact in a minute…

But only so you’ll have a better understanding of how this information will diminish your results with women.

So you’ll never fall for that kind of intellectual masturbation again.

Cause the dating advice world is filled with this crap.

And once you can recognize what intellectual masturbation looks like…

You’ll be able to protect yourself from it.

Okay…

Let’s go…

Eye Contact Level (- 1): Deliberate Absence of Eye Contact

This is when someone PURPOSELY avoids eye contact with you.

It can occur from a distance.

Meaning the girl won’t even look at you from a distance.

But it can also occur during conversations.

Meaning….

You're talking to a woman, and she deliberately avoids eye contact.

Now…

According to the author, it means she’s NOT into you.

In my opinion, the author is correct.

If a woman deliberately doesn’t look at you…

It probably does means she’s not into you.

But…

The whole point is intellectual masturbation.

Cause having this knowledge…

Doesn’t help you one bit.

In fact…

It will winder your success!

Here’s why.

First…

When a girl doesn’t look at you from a distance…

You don’t know if it’s on purpose or if she just didn’t see you.

And since you don’t know…

It’s USELESS information.

Second…

When you're in a conversation...

And a girl avoids eye contact with you…

It also doesn’t necessarily mean she’s not into you.

She might just be shy.

So…

Again…

This information doesn’t serve you at all.

It will only make you more insecure.

Btw…

I’ll tell you later what the only reliable sign is that she’s not interested in you.

And, yep, it’s just one.

Which means it’s a lot more practical to use than 9 levels of eye contact!

Alright.

Let’s debunk the next level…

Eye Contact Level 0: Undeliberate Absence of Eye Contact

According to the author…

This is when someone doesn’t make eye contact with you because they just haven’t seen you.

Again…

My critique about this…

How do you know if it was deliberate or not?

The only way to find out is by talking to her.

So what’s the point in having this information?

It’ll tell you this.

There’s ZERO practical value in it.

Only intellectual masturbation value.

Okay!

Next…

Eye Contact Level 1: The Unconscious Look

According to the author, this is when someone looks at you…

And then instantly looks away…

Without even realizing it!

It's when their eyes are wandering around…

And then, accidentally, meet yours, for just a second.

And he emphasized the point that it’s an “unintentional” look.

Again…

What good does it do you to have this information?

How is that going to help you when a girl looks at you.

It won’t.

It will likely get you in your head.

“Oh… she looked at me… but maybe it was unconsciously… so it doesn’t mean anything. Better if I don’t approach her.”

See how knowing this information isn’t helping you?

Especially if you’re more on the introverted side of the spectrum.

Cause introverts already tend to overthink things.

This is only going to cause you to overthink MORE.

The only way to find out if it was intentional or unintentional is to go talk to her.

The proof of the pudding is in the eating.

Next…

Eye Contact Level 2: The Conscious Look

According to the author…

This is when someone looks at you, and instantly looks away.

Just like in the previous level…

But this time...

It's done “intentionally."

And he explains it could mean several things.

It could be because she’s attracted to you while being shy or nervous…

Or…

It could be she was NOT attracted to you.

Again.

How do you know for sure?

The only way to know for sure is to go over and approach them.

So why stuff this information in your head?

It’s useless.

Next…

Eye Contact Level 3: The 1.5 Look

Yeah… seriously!

A look and a half.

Gee… talking about splitting hairs!

According to the author…

This is when someone makes eye contact with you for just a "fraction" longer than in level 2 or level 1.

He’s talking about ¼ of a second longer.

You kidding me?

How does that help you?

If that’s not intellectual masturbation… then what is?

Again…

As an introvert…

Who has a natural tendency to overthink things…

What does that do to you?

It sure as hell WON’T get you out of your head.

No… no… no!

It will get you deeper in your head!

“Was that really ¼ of a second longer? What if it wasn’t?”

Which means…

No actions.

No results.

More loneliness.

Eye Contact Level 4: The Double Look

According to the author, that's when a girl looks at you…

Breaks eye-contact…

And looks at you “again.”

He makes a point that this is a 95%+ sign that a woman is interested.

Is he right?

Don’t know.

Doesn’t matter.

Cause if you only approach the women that give you a double look…

You’re missing out on a lot of opportunities.

Remember?

We don’t know if she’s attracted or not attracted until we find out.

And what’s the point in looking for the difference between a look… a 1.5 look… and a double look?

They can all mean she’s attracted.

Eye Contact Level 5: The Long Look

Also called a gaze.

This is when people keep longer eye contact than what is expected.

According to the author...

It's a solid 2-3 seconds of uninterrupted eye contact.

It means a girl is really interested in you.

And he then makes a point that it's essential to keep eye contact and not break it.

Cause if you break eye contact too soon…

You won’t be able to spot the long look.

Now…

Although I agree on the fact that it’s super important to be able to keep eye contact…

This information is… again… overkill!

Why?

Cause…

Whether a woman looks at you for a split second...

A second and a half...

Or three seconds…

In all cases... there's probably some attraction.

So…

Instead of splitting seconds in your head…

Go and talk to her.

One of the biggest concerns introverted men have…

Is…

They feel they're NOT spontaneous when it comes to approaching galls.

Mainly because many introverts overthink things.

Well… when a girl makes eye contact with ya…

Being in a “mathematical” mode in your head…

“Was that a second? A second and ¼? Over a second? Two seconds? Three?”…

Ain’t gonna increase your spontaneity.

It will only get you more in your head.

Resulting in more inaction and even fewer results.

Eye Contact Level 6: The Colgate Look

This just means she gives you a long look plus a smile.

According to the author…

This means she’s SUPER into you.

And you should go talk to her.

Do I agree?

Yes, I do.

But again…

On all the other levels... they can also be attracted to you…

In fact… most of the time… they are.

And the only way to find out…

Is by talking to them.

You see…

Having all this knowledge is like climbing Mount Everest with ten pounds of books in your backpack on climbing Mount Everest.

You don’t need all that ballast.

You just need to know a few things.

And when it comes to approaching women…

All you need to know is...

"Are YOU attracted to her?”.

If so…

Go and talk to her.

Cause otherwise, all you get is…

Paralyses by analyses.

No Bueno!

Eye Contact Level 7: Eye Fucking

This is when a woman smiles at ya…

And just keeps staring into your eyes.

Basically, she’s fucking you with her eyes.

And… yeah… it’s a sure tell sign she’s into you.

But again… knowing or not knowing this…

Is irrelevant when you simply approach the women YOU like.

You’ll get a lot more results that way.

Because what happens with this type of information is this.

When a guy does not get the super unmistakable eye fuck look…

And only gets a quick glance…

He’ll say to himself…

“Well... it was just a glance."

And he WON’T approach.

BUT…

SHE MIGHT JUST BE SHY!

Now…

To be fair…

One good tip the author gave was that…

As a guy…

You want to be careful eye fucking women…

Unless they do I to you first!

Cause otherwise…

You’ll quickly come across as a creep.

So don’t do that!

Eye Contact Level 8: The Dreamy Look

The author says this type of dreamy look happens when someone has fallen for you.

It’s when she stares at you with dreamy eyes.

And it usually doesn’t happen before you you’ve had sex with a woman.

He says it's a fantastic feeling.

And I agree.

It is a fantastic feeling.

But how does knowing this help you in approaching more women?

It’s something for AFTER sex.

So why is it even mentioned?

Again… intellectual masturbation.

Eye Contact Level 9 – The Crazy Look

Eye Contact Level 9: The Crazy Look

I really don’t know why the author added this to the list.

Cause it wasn’t even about eye contact.

It was just a way to describe “a stalker”.

Anyways…

What’s common about these 9 levels of eye contact?

It's all intellectual masturbation that doesn't serve you AT ALL.

Cause…

As I said…

The only thing this will do is get you even more inside your head.

“Oh… that girl looked at me! Which of the nine levels was that again? And what should I do at that level? Am I sure it was a level 7 look? What if I’m wrong?”

Boom!

By the time you finished your train of thoughts…

She’s already gone.

Intellectual masturbation is the enemy of action…

And therefore…

The enemy of results.

So…

What do you do instead?

What's the one sure-fire way to know if the eye contact, you’re getting from a woman…

Is positive…

Or negative?

Here it is…

Don’t Look For The Presence Of Green Lights – Look For The Absence Of Red Lights!

Meaning…

Assume the lights are green until she tells you the lights are red.

And here’s the simplest…

Most pragmatical…

Most result-guaranteed way of doing that.

You ready for it?

Sure?

Okay.

Here we go:

The only thing that counts as a red light…

Is when she excuse herself to leave the conversation!

Meaning…

As long as she’s talking to you… you’re good!

Can you see how this is the only piece of information you'll ever need about eye contact?

Can you see how this will give you the most significant chance at succeeding with women?

Here’s how you apply that information.

When you see a woman, you like…

No matter if she gives you eye contact or not…

No matter what level her eye contact is at…

Heck…

Don’t even look for a level…

If you like her…

Approach her.

Then talk to her.

And if she doesn’t excuse herself to leave the conversation…

It’s on, baby!

Why does this work?

Well…

Cause you have no way to figure out what each of the 9 levels of eye contact really means from a distance.

Therefore, this information is useless.

As I said…

The only way to find out is by talking to her.

If she stays in the conversation with you…

Even if she doesn’t keep eye contact…

Even if she doesn’t talk a lot…

If she stays, there…

It’s a green light!

That’s the simplest, most reliable way to find out.

All the rest is speculation and intellectual masturbation.

That said…

A question that a lot of introverts have is…

What To Do When A Girl Makes Eye Contact With You

So…

You’re at the grocery store…

Buying some apples…

And there she is…

A hot blonde…

Standing at the check-out…

Looking right in your eyes…

What do you do?

A lot of men don’t know how to handles this situation.

Especially introverted men…

Who are a little more reserved in their nature.

And yet…

The answer is simple.

You make eye contact…

You smile at her…

And KEEP eye contact until SHE looks away.

Don’t look away first.

Cause you’ll look weak and insecure.

Instead...

Let her look away.

What usually happens is…

Women will reciprocate your smile!

And then look away.

And when that happens…

You can be 100% sure she likes you.

But again…

If she doesn’t smile back…

It does not mean she’s not into you.

She might be shy.

The only way to find out… is by approaching her.

And yeah…

You might find out that she has a boyfriend or that she’s married.

And you’ll realize that’s why she looked away.

Cause she was attracted to you…

But she just didn’t want to take it further because she was already taken.

Again…

You can only find out when you talk to her.

Alright…

Let's talk about some exciting stuff now…

How To Have Eye contact With A Girl That Creates Attraction And A Bond – Simultaneously And Automatically

I came across a couple of interesting studies.

One was done by the Aberdeen University in Scotland.

And it concluded that eye contact not only creates attraction.

But it also gives smiling, listening, and touching more impact!

Another study asked one group of couples to look at their partner's hands…

And another group to gaze in their partner's eyes.

Then they had to fill out a questionnaire.

Turns out the couples who had mutual eye contact reported stronger feelings than the ones who didn’t!

In other words…

Eye contact builds both attraction and a bond…

Simultaneously and automatically!

Here's what it means for you.

You need to be able to hold eye contact.

Cause if you can’t…

You’ll have a hard time creating attraction and a connection with women.

But if you do…

Both attraction and connection will build naturally.

So…

How Do You Hold Eye Contact With A Girl?

And how do you do it without coming across as a creep?

Here’s how.

When you’re talking to her…

You keep eye contact “all the time."

But when she’s talking to you…

You keep it 80% of the time.

And for 20% of the time, you let your eyes wander a bit.

First…

This avoids you coming across as one of those pick-up artist creeps (who learned about eye contact but is overdoing it)!

Second…

When you break it 20% of the time when she’s talking…

It will make her work harder for your attention.

Which will increase her attraction for you even more.

For the rest…

The only thing you want to do is…

Smile with your eyes.

Don’t look at her like you’re a Terminator.

Instead... smile with your eyes!

That’s it.

If you do this combined with the 80/20 approach…

You’ll be a badass at eye contact.

No need to overcomplicate things.

Keep ‘em simple.

How To Make Eye Contact With A Girl Using The Hollywood Effect

Today…

I wanted to go out for my daily walk.

But it was pouring.

And I didn’t feel in the mood to put on rain gear!

So…

I skipped my daily walk.

What in the heck does this have to do with eye contact?

Well…

A lot.

You see…

After you’ve built attraction and a bond with a girl…

Using the eye contact tips described in the previous tip…

You want to take it one step further.

You want to escalate the relationship to a physically intimate one.

And here’s the thing.

If a woman doesn’t feel in the mood to become intimate with you…

She won’t!

Just like I didn’t go for a walk…

Cause I didn’t feel in the mood for walking in the rain!

So…

First...

You have to get her into that hot and bothered mood.

She needs to feel the sexual tension.

And one of the best ways to do that…

Is using what I call the Hollywood Eye Contact Method.

Have you ever seen a scene in a movie…

Where two people are about to kiss?

Rhetorical question.

I know.

Cause who hasn’t seen a scene like that.

But here’s the thing.

What happens right before people kiss in a movie?

How do they set the scene?

How do they create sexual tension?

They do it using a magical combo:

Eye contact + a pause.

That’s right…

When you hold eye contact with someone while leaving a pause…

That creates sexual tension.

That sexual tension then smoothly leads to the kiss.

So…

The next time you want to create sexual tension…

Simply look a woman in her eyes and leave a pause!

Pretty cool, isn’t it?

Btw…

Did you know there’s another hack just like this?

Here it is…

While Making Eye Contact With A Girl, Peep At This Spot On Her Face And Shell Start Thinking About Sex With You

Have you ever noticed when a girl glances down at your crotch…

You instantly have sexual thoughts in your mind?

Did you know women also have a spot you can look at that makes them think about sex?

And nope…

It’s not looking at her vagina.

It’s not even a spot on her body.

It’s a spot on her face.

It’s her lips.

Yep…

When you’re having eye contact with a girl…

And you quickly glance down her lips and look back into her eyes…

She’ll start thinking about sex.

Or at the very least about kissing you.

Why is that?

Because it’s what people naturally do when they want to kiss someone.

The eyes are naturally drawn to what we are thinking of.

So…

When two people think about kissing one another…

Their eyes will glance at the other person's lips.

Here’s the best part…

If you glance at a girl's lips first…

She’ll unconsciously notice you want to kiss her.

But not consciously.

And through something called mirror neurons…

She will replicate what you just did.

She’ll glance at your lips too.

And since that’s something she only does when she wants to kiss someone…

She’ll unconsciously start thinking about kissing you and even having sex with you.

So…

How do you like them apples?

Badass stuff, don’t you think?

All, just from using your eyes!

Amazing!

Alright…

Let’s take this even further…

With the next eye contact flirting trick…

How To Make Eye Contact With A Girl Using The Top Gun Method

One of my favorite movies of all time is Top Gun!

Probably seen it 100 times.

Badass!

If you haven’t seen it… go watch it!

If only just for the elevator scene!

You see…

There’s a scene where Maverick and Charlotte (the hot blond) are in an elevator.

Maverick leans into her and makes intense eye contact…

And Charlotte’s eyes quickly look at Maverick’s left eye…

Then his right eye…

Then to his mouth…

And back to his eyes!

This is called a triangular gaze.

And it’s something people do right before they kiss.

So…

If you ever want to kiss a girl…

Simply do a triangular gaze with her…

And you’ll bring her in the mood for kissing!

Next eye contact trick…

How To Make Eye Contact With A Girl Using The Soul Gaze

I once came across a great technique to create a deep bond with women.

And it’s called soul gazing.

Here’s how it works.

Basically…

You and the woman are going to gaze into each other’s soul through eye contact.

Best is to set this up as a game, btw.

Once you’re on a date…

After you’ve created attraction…

And after you already have a connection with her…

Tell her you know this cool game called soul gazing.

Tell her it allows you to look into a person’s soul through their eyes.

Then ask her if she wants to play it.

If she says yes, explain her…

That the left eye is the eye of the soul.

And to look into each other’s soul...

Both of you need to use your left eye to look into the other person's left eye.

Tell her you have to keep staring in each other's left eye for 3 minutes uninterrupted.

Set a timer and do it.

After you’re done with it…

Both of you will feel like your soulmates!

Powerful stuff!

Use with caution.

Meaning…

Only use it when you want her to become your girlfriend.

Cause otherwise...

It's unethical!

Conclusion On How To Make Eye Contact With A Girl

Making eye contact with a woman is crucial.

It makes you look confident and trustworthy.

Depending on the type of eye contact you use…

It allows you to build attraction, connection, and arousal in women.

The most important part of learning about eye contact is keeping it pragmatical.

There’s a lot of information about eye contact out there that’s just intellectual masturbation.

Meaning intellectually interesting to know…

But…

Pragmatically impossible to implement.

This is dangerous advice for every man….

But even more so for smart, introverted men.

Cause we’re very attracted the intellectual stimulation.

But…

Then…

We overload our brains with so much detail...

That we’ll overthink things even more.

So…

As always…

My advice is to keep it simple.

That’s when you’ll get the best results.

This article not only pointed out what intellectual masturbation looks like…

So you can avoid it…

But also gave you simple, practical eye contact flirting tips…

That can turn hot babes into putty in your hands…

Just by using your eyes!

Have a great day.

Nick