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By the worlds #1 dating coach for Introverted Men - Nick Neeson.
If you want to discover the true traits of an Alpha male – that work even you’re an introvert – this will be the most eye-opening article you’ll ever read on the topic.
Here’s why.
Cultivating the traits of an Alpha male can be a hard thing.
Especially if you are an introvert.
And the main reason for that is that the whole concept of the Alpha male…
Is based on a flawed study about wolves.
So flawed, in fact…
That the person who did that study and who popularized the term Alpha Male…
Is now fighting the hardest to change the meaning of it.
I’ll talk more about this in the rest of the article.
But…
For now…
It's important to understand this.
If you keep believing in that old Alpha male paradigm…
You’ll struggle in a lot of areas.
With women and dating…
With friends and family…
And with colleagues and/or employees.
Plus…
As a thoughtful, introverted man…
You’ll feel like you’re betraying yourself…
By becoming someone, you're not!
Luckily…
There’s new research that emerged…
And that shows the actual traits of the Alpha male.
The best part?
These traits are very easy to develop as an introvert.
And without becoming someone, you're not!
Cause they are naturally aligned with the strengths of introverts.
Okay.
Let’s dive right in…
Here’s why.
Cultivating the traits of an Alpha male can be a hard thing.
Especially if you are an introvert.
And the main reason for that is that the whole concept of the Alpha male…
Is based on a flawed study about wolves.
So flawed, in fact…
That the person who did that study and who popularized the term Alpha Male…
Is now fighting the hardest to change the meaning of it.
I’ll talk more about this in the rest of the article.
But…
For now…
It's important to understand this.
If you keep believing in that old Alpha male paradigm…
You’ll struggle in a lot of areas.
With women and dating…
With friends and family…
And with colleagues and/or employees.
Plus…
As a thoughtful, introverted man…
You’ll feel like you’re betraying yourself…
By becoming someone, you're not!
Luckily…
There’s new research that emerged…
And that shows the actual traits of the Alpha male.
The best part?
These traits are very easy to develop as an introvert.
And without becoming someone, you're not!
Cause they are naturally aligned with the strengths of introverts.
Okay.
Let’s dive right in…
What Is an Alpha Male?
What Is an Alpha Male?
According to dictionary.com…
An Alpha male is…
“The most dominant, powerful, or assertive man in a particular group.”
In other words, …
The Alpha male is the top dog.
The leader of the pack.
And when it comes to women and dating…
The Alpha male is the one that gets all the gals.
And since procreating is one of our most primal needs…
The appeal of the Alpha male…
Is huge.
Every guy and his dog want to know how to be the Alpha male.
So…
Let’s have a look at what it takes to be a true Alpha.
How To Be An Alpha Male: Two Strategies
How To Be An Alpha Male - Two Strategies
Over the years...
I've done a lot of research and a lot of thinking on this subject.
And I found that…
You can become the Alpha in two different ways.
One is through aggression and bullying…
Which, by the way, is the least effective way.
But sadly…
That's what the term Alpha male has become a synonym with.
The other is a totally different (and much better) approach.
And it’s based on new scientific findings.
So…
Let’s have a look at the better way to become an Alpha…
The First Secret Trait Of An Alpha Male (Nobody Talks About This And If You Read Only One, Read This One)
The First Secret Trait Of An Alpha Male (Nobody Talks About This And If You Read Only One, Read This One)
When I was researching the traits of Alpha males…
I came across a fascinating book by David Mech, called…
“The Wolf: The Ecology and Behavior of an Endangered Species.”
Now…
David Mech is “the” authority on wolves.
In fact…
His research on the social structures of wolf societies…
Is what made the term Alpha Male a popular mainstream term.
Anyway…
In his book…
He wrote that the wolf Alpha male becomes the Alpha…
By fighting with other males.
By being the strongest.
By winning a battle.
And since the findings described in this book made the term Alpha Male famous…
What happened is pretty crazy!
You see…
People started to describe “human” Alpha male behavior based on a book about “wolves”!
Now…
I don’t know about you…
But last I checked…
Humans are not wolves.
And if we were to investigate the animal kingdom to make parallels with humans…
Well…
The closest species to humans…
Are chimps…
Not wolves!
Anyways…
It is what it is.
But…
No wonder when you look up “traits of an Alpha male,"…
Almost all the traits you find…
Are rooted in aggression and installing fear into others.
It’s all about…
Winning the battle for the top spot.
Bullying your opponent into submission.
Showing people you’re the boss and that they can’t mess with ya.
In other words…
Most of the courses and books on how to be an Alpha male…
Teach you…
In some way or another…
To be a bully!
And all because…
A flawed study said this was the way wolves did it!
Now…
No wonder many thoughtful, introverted men…
Feel like there’s something inherently wrong with them.
Cause every piece of dating advice they get…
Tells them to become a bully (aka Alpha male)!
So…
If that’s you…
There’s good news!
Cause first…
As I already said…
Humans are not wolves!
And second…
That original study about the wolf Alpha male is now confirmed to be wrong.
And not only David Mech (the person who did the original study)…
But pretty much the entire scientific community agrees…
The Alpha male wolf “doesn’t” gain his place as the Alpha by battling other wolves.
They all agree there’s only one factor that determines the Alpha male among wolves.
And it is…
Are you ready for it?
Yeah?
Here we go…
How many pups they make!
In other words…
An Alpha male makes A LOT of pups…
And that’s how he becomes the Alpha of that group of pups.
Now…
All of this means…
A true Alpha male is not an aggressive bully…
But a breeder.
And by the way…
These new findings of wolves…
Actually correlate with humans.
You see...
Human Alpha males are very good at attracting women…
Even before they are the top dog!
And there’s a reason for that…
Which I’ll explain later in this article.
But for now…
Understand this…
If you want to be an Alpha male…
You don’t have to be a bully…
But you do need to be good with women.
Again…
In a few minutes, I'll tell you why that is.
But let’s first look at the next secret trait of the Alpha male.
Cause after you understand that trait…
You’ll also understand why Alpha males gain a lot of their social status in the group by being good with women.
The Second Secret Trait Of An Alpha Male
There's a fascinating Ted talk on YouTube by Frans de Waal.
It’s called, The Surprising Science Of Alpha Males.
Frans is one of the world’s foremost primatologists and ethologists.
And his Ted talk is about an Alpha male chimp, called Amos.
Now…
Amos was a very loved Alpha male.
Very popular in the group.
But…
He got sick.
And because he got sick, he lost his Alpha male position.
In fact, Amos became so sick…
They had to isolate him from the group on the island.
They put him in a cage.
But they left a crack of the cage open…
So that other chimps could still get to him.
And…
The most touching thing happened.
Even though he was not the Alpha male anymore…
Other chimps took care of him.
They brought him food and wood wool.
Which is what chimps use to sleep in and build nests from.
The female chimps would even put the wood wool behind his back.
Like nurses put pillows behind the back of patients.
In short…
Amos was loved and respected, even when he lost his position.
And that’s important to know.
Cause that’s not always the case.
You see…
Many male chimps don’t end so well when they lose their Alpha status.
So why was this?
Well…
It was because Amos was a true Alpha male.
He wasn’t a bully.
He was popular.
And although this is a story about chimps…
It’s the same with people.
True Alphas are popular in their group.
Which is good news for thoughtful, introverted men.
Cause if you want to become an Alpha male…
You can do that without being a bully.
You only need to become popular.
And of course…
That might lead you to ask…
How can you become popular?
Well…
That’s the next part of the good news.
Cause…
The kind of popularity I’m talking about…
Has nothing to do with being "cool" or "being a gregarious extrovert."
Instead…
It has everything to do with qualities that many introverts naturally have.
Let’s look…
The Third Secret Trait Of An Alpha Male
The Third Secret Trait Of An Alpha Male
Apart from being good with females and gaining their support...
Alpha males are also very good at forming coalitions with other males.
And you see this in humans as well as chimps.
For example…
You don’t become the president of the united states by yourself.
You must be able to form coalitions.
Same with chimps.
Research on chimps has shown that it's not always the biggest chimp that becomes the Alpha.
Smaller chimps can just as well become Alpha.
Because the Alpha position is based on their ability to form coalitions.
For example,
An up-and-coming Alpha chimp…
Will often form a coalition with the older Alpha chimp.
And in exchange for the support of the older Alpha male…
The younger one (when he takes over the Alpha position) …
Will still let the older Alpha male have sex with the females.
It's a win-win.
The older Alpha knows he is going to lose his Alpha position soon anyway.
And rather than losing it through a fight with a younger enemy…
And lose his access to sex with females in the process…
He’ll endorse a chosen younger Alpha…
So he can keep having sex with the females.
And by allowing this…
The new Alpha also wins.
Because he knows that by allowing this…
He has the support of the older Alpha as well as his coalitions.
So…
Anyone who challenges the young Alpha…
Will have to face a small army of chimps…
Aka…
The young Alpha…
Plus, the old (previous Alpha)
Plus, all the coalitions of the young Alpha…
Plus, all the coalitions of the old Alpha!
And as I said…
We see the same behavior with humans.
The best Alphas know how to form coalitions.
Cause they know…
One person is never as strong as a group of people.
So…
If you want to develop your Alpha male traits…
Learning how to build coalitions is vital!
And now you also understand why Alpha males are good with women.
Cause when they are good at attracting women…
These women will become his supporters too!
The Fourth Secret Trait Of An Alpha Male
The Fourth Secret Trait Of An Alpha Male
One of the things I've learned over the years is that you can only be the Alpha…
If the group allows it.
And coalitions are not enough for this.
You see…
Coalitions can “make” you the Alpha male.
But you need more than that to “stay” the Alpha.
At least if you want to stay it for a long time.
You see…
The Alpha male has a responsibility.
It’s making sure the group has a good life.
And in return for that…
They allow the Alpha to be their Alpha.
But…
If the group doesn’t have a good life…
Sooner or later…
People down the hierarchy will start forming new coalitions…
To dethrone the leader.
So how does the Alpha male make sure the group has a good life?
Well…
One of the things that…
Not only kills the good life…
But also endangers the very survival of a group is…
Conflict.
Therefore…
One of the most important jobs an Alpha male…
Is to keep the peace between members of the group.
Cause if members of the group start fighting each other…
The group will break apart.
So…
Whenever there’s conflict.
The Alpha male will interfere and end the conflict.
So…
If you want to be an Alpha male…
A trait you need to develop is conflict resolution.
The Fifth Secret Trait Of An Alpha Male
The Fifth Secret Trait Of An Alpha Male
Whenever there’s conflict in the group…
Not only will the Alpha male end the conflict.
But he will also be impartial.
Even if one of the people in the conflict is a good friend.
In fact…
Usually, the Alpha male will pick the side of the underdog.
This gives the weaker people in the group a feeling of safety.
Cause they know the top dog will stand up for them.
Which in turn reinforces the popularity of the Alpha male.
And thus secures his position.
The point?
If you want to be Alpha…
Stand up for the weaker!
The Sixth Secret Trait Of An Alpha Male
The Sixth Secret Trait Of An Alpha Male
Another secret trait of the Alpha male that you won’t hear about a lot…
Is…
Empathy!
Alpha males tend to show a lot of empathy.
Again…
You can see it both in humans and in chimps.
For example…
If there was a fight between two chimps…
And the Alpha male wasn’t there to stop the fight…
The Alpha male will go hug the chimp that lost the fight.
Again…
This empathy and consolation make the weaker feel safe.
Cause they know the top dog is there for them.
Which makes the Alpha male more popular…
And secures his position.
And you see the same with humans.
Whenever there’s a hurricane or some tragedy that happens…
The president will drop whatever he’s doing to go and comfort the victims.
Btw…
Have you noticed something?
The traits of an Alpha male are very introvert-friendly.
Cause introverts have a natural tendency to be empathetic.
And they are pretty good at resolving conflict in a non-aggressive way.
See…
No need to be a bully!
In fact,…
Bullies don’t last long as Alpha males.
Cause they get dethroned faster due to the dissatisfaction of the group.
The Seventh Secret Trait Of An Alpha Male
The Seventh Secret Trait Of An Alpha Male
Have you seen the Lion King?
My youngest daughter used to watch it almost every day.
There’s this scene where Simba and Nala wandered off and entered a forbidden place…
The elephant graveyard!
And of course…
They got in trouble!
Cause there were hyenas…
Who wanted to eat their fluffy asses.
And just as they were about to become the Big Macs of the hyenas…
Mufasa interfered.
Luckily!
Anyways…
When Mufasa later asked Simba…
Why he went to the elephant graveyard.
Simba said…
“Because I wanted to be brave, just like you.”
To which Mufasa replied…
“Being brave doesn't mean... go looking for troubles.”
Which brings me to the point.
An Alpha male doesn’t go look for problems.
But when there are problems…
He’ll be brave and face them.
Which means that an Alpha male will stand up for his group and fight against outside threats.
And for that, he needs courage.
Btw…
Just as a side note…
Courage doesn’t mean the absence of fear.
Courage means…
Doing what needs to be done, despite your fear.
So…
If you want to become an Alpha male…
Develop your courage muscle.
Conclusion On The Traits Of An Alpha Male
Conclusion On The Traits Of An Alpha Male
There are a lot of misconceptions about what it means to be an Alpha male.
In fact,…
Almost every single book or course on the subject…
Is on some level about putting other men down.
That’s because almost all the info about Alpha males out there…
Is based on flawed research about wolf Alpha males.
This research was done by David Mech.
Today…
David Mech himself…
Is fighting to change the misconceptions about Alpha males that are based on his original research!
Both he and probably the entire scientific community…
Agree that the status of Alpha is not achieved through battle…
But through something else.
This article is based on these new scientific findings.
And the best part is…
The traits of a real Alpha male are close to the natural strengths of introverted men!
Hope this helped.
Have a great day!
Nick
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